MiaColletus Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Hey so this is more a question for guys, but I haven't seen my boyfriend for a week now because of school and I'm not going to see him until Friday but I want to send him some sort of a surprise to make him happy and let him know I'm thinking about him. Guys, how would you feel if your girl sent you a sexy video of her stripping? Kind of like something to look forward to till the end of the week...would that be a good surprise? does anyone have any other ideas of what I could do?
Pasttense Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 And if you break up sometime in the future? He then shares the video with the whole world?
Feelin Frisky Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 It could be good depending upon who you both are. Does he need reminding? Or is he really already into you? Ask yourself if it is going to create a big expectation where he could easily disappoint you if he doesn't respond the way you hope. If so, don't do it. My ex would contrive things to do "for me" but they were really all "for her" which left me only one acceptable response: exuberant joy that it was everything I ever wanted. And I'm a guy--I don't gush like Richard Simmons about girl stuff. All I wanted was a stable relationship where we trusted each other.
Author MiaColletus Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Let's just leave it at I trust him enough to do this. I'm sure many of you are going to disagree and say don't trust anyone, ever, but then where would we be as a species. And if it does happen that I get screwed over, oh well. **** happens in life and you learn the hard way. Back to my question....
Author MiaColletus Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Frisky, do you mean that she did things for you so that you praised her for them? As in, she needed the approval that she was making you happy?
Feelin Frisky Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Frisky, do you mean that she did things for you so that you praised her for them? As in, she needed the approval that she was making you happy? Yes, that's what I mean. She would give me things that SHE liked--like sending flowers to my office. I'd prefer not making a loud show of things in my office. I was then left with nothing to do but gush like Richard Simmons that they were "fabulous" and wonderful otherwise, I'm an unbearable ungrateful grrump. She also did a strip tease for me and didn't pull it off too well. It just made me feel on the spot to make a show of my feelings that was coerced and fake. I don't like doing that if I can avoid it. And when I'm at home, I should have what I want I think pretty much. But she was not right in the head and this should not mean doing these things is wrong or hopeless for other people. It should just be in proportion and approriate and try to be considerate of what the other person wants--which sometimes is just to have good feelings sustained as they are. If I had to guess, I'd say you're probably going to succeed with what you do. Be wary to realize long term about expectations, proportions and stuff. It makes for an uncomplicated and more-lileky to last relationship. Good luck.
Author MiaColletus Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 She also did a strip tease for me and didn't pull it off too well. It just made me feel on the spot to make a show of my feelings that was coerced and fake. I don't like doing that if I can avoid it. And when I'm at home, I should have what I want I think pretty much. She didn't pull it off well? How so? I would think any striptease for a guy no matter what is pleasurable... a girl is getting naked in front of you after all. And did you feel the need to make a show of your emotions because you knew that's what she wanted? I've stripped for my guy before and he enjoyed it although he didn't praise or show excitement. He just smiled and pulled me close and then we continued what I had started. It was good enough for me, that he liked what he saw and wanted more. I do things because I want to give joy to the other person, and hopefully, he won't think I'm doing it looking for approval. He has no reason to think that. But then again, did you have a reason to think your girlfriend was doing it for praise?
grkBoy Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I dunno. I'd send him a lingerie shot...save the striptease for when you see him. Add in a lapdance. As much as there is trust, it just seems too easy now for lurid private stuff to end up all over the net.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 She didn't pull it off well? How so? I would think any striptease for a guy no matter what is pleasurable... a girl is getting naked in front of you after all. And did you feel the need to make a show of your emotions because you knew that's what she wanted? I've stripped for my guy before and he enjoyed it although he didn't praise or show excitement. He just smiled and pulled me close and then we continued what I had started. It was good enough for me, that he liked what he saw and wanted more. I do things because I want to give joy to the other person, and hopefully, he won't think I'm doing it looking for approval. He has no reason to think that. But then again, did you have a reason to think your girlfriend was doing it for praise? Yes she was doing it for praise and in my post I said she was a "head case" so that doesn't mean what I say is intended to apply as any general rule. She was neurotic and nothing was enough to make her secure. It got so I almost begged her not to give me any gifts. Here's how it is with some men, all you have to do is keep your word and show up where you said you will and that is considered a gift. If a woman really wants to go beyond that she should maybe forgive his first indiscretion, like telling a joke that flopped or failing to observe optimum table etiquette. Letting something like that go and keeping the mood and the moment high and getting through the night with fun and satisfaction is what a guy wants more than any kind of big showy gift. As for the sentence I bolded above, not necessarily true. When I start liking someone and we are dating or even beyond that when we're in a relationship, I don't care to get a view of her as if trussed up for public consumption in a strip tease. I already like her. I like how she puts herself together and that's what I regularly imagine undressing and seducing. Her. Not some construct of something she isn't. And some women just think they are better looking that they are and shouldn't push the boundaries because it shows lousy taste frankly. If one is a tad heavy, he or she shouldn't go out with midriff exposed. It's simple. Work with what you have. I you are gorgeous and young and confident that the show will pass, then go for it. If you're tush is dimpled and you have not breasts, live within your means if you don't want to put the guy on the spot and make him squirm. Guys are perhaps more simple than you think. If other guys are like me, they want lack of emotional extremes brought on by over-bearing shows of bravado on either side.
laotzu Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 It'd be really, really hot - and I'd think it was great. There's no downside. I've had ex's who've let me video tape or photograph them nude, or performing sexual acts, and I've never, ever posted those online, or sent them to other people - and I never would. And this includes a girl who cheated on me in a pretty weak way. The only time I've ever shown anything scandalous is when I've had permission from the girl... and I have a lot more than just strip-teases. Anyway, it'd be hot.
youngskywalker Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 It'd be really, really hot - and I'd think it was great. There's no downside. I've had ex's who've let me video tape or photograph them nude, or performing sexual acts, and I've never, ever posted those online, or sent them to other people - and I never would. And this includes a girl who cheated on me in a pretty weak way. The only time I've ever shown anything scandalous is when I've had permission from the girl... and I have a lot more than just strip-teases. Anyway, it'd be hot. So you're a nice guy then. Greater than 50% chance that those video's end up on the internet if there is a hostile breakup. Yeah it would be hot but is it worth the chance? You only get one shot at securing your character in life.
Author MiaColletus Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 Greater than 50% chance that those video's end up on the internet if there is a hostile breakup. Yeah it would be hot but is it worth the chance? You only get one shot at securing your character in life. This is true. The reason why I am okay with this is because I know a) My guy is a nice guy, I trust that b) I don't believe in hostile breakups, I don't cheat and if I do get cheated on I'm not one to make scenes anyone that does that to me isn't worth my emotions. Plus I hate drama.
Author MiaColletus Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 If you are gorgeous and young and confident that the show will pass, then go for it. If you're tush is dimpled and you have not breasts, live within your means if you don't want to put the guy on the spot and make him squirm. Guys are perhaps more simple than you think. If other guys are like me, they want lack of emotional extremes brought on by over-bearing shows of bravado on either side. Did you not think your girlfriend was sexy? I totally agree with the lack of emotional extremes though...I am the same way
Lucky_One Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 It only takes one minute of letting one of your buddies borrow your phone and for said buddy to find the video, watch it, and forward it. I am sure that stupid Paris Hilton trusted Rick Saloman, too. And Pamela Anderson trusted Bret...or did Bret trust Pamela? I am not sure who leaked that video.
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