Beachgirl8 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Ok. The last thread I started turned into a bunch of suggestions that I work on myself before dating again. So I'm going to go with that theory for now. It's been close to 3 years since the demise of my last LTR, and I thought I had been working on myself, but maybe I'm not doing the right things that will get my head in the "right place". So, please make suggestions for additional things I need to do in order to be "ready". Here is what I've been doing: -gym -volunteer work -writing in a journal -church -Buddhist philosophy class -meditation -working on forgiving and letting go of the past -making a list of what I'm grateful for -exploring hobbies and creative projects -being social and friendly -having a great relationship with my child who is now a senior in high school and being sooo proud of the person he has become So what else? I'm a doer. I don't wallow much. What other suggestions do the people of LS have for me? My self imposed dating moratorium starts now. I'm making a commitment to NOT date for a minimum of a month. If it takes longer, fine.
Ross MwcFan Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Listening to hypnosis and self help mp3's. How do you find the time to do all of that stuff?
Author Beachgirl8 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 (edited) Listening to hypnosis and self help mp3's. How do you find the time to do all of that stuff? That's a good idea! I'll look into some podcasts and stuff tonight. Thanks. I just stay busy. I don't have a boyfriend to attend to, and my child is super busy with school, sports, job, friends and girls. So I have a lot of free time at the moment. My job is only 40 hours and isn't very stressful. I also don't watch tv or spend time on the computer. I do pretty much everything Online sporadically throughout the day from my phone, including LS Edited October 5, 2011 by Beachgirl8 Additional info
Cee Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Beach girl, you have such a full, lovely life. Why not dip your toes into dating by chatting up single men and see how you feel. Be present about being a single desirable woman. You don't have to do anything, just be. When I took a 4 year dating break, I never felt ready until I declared myself whole, healed, and complete as I am. You sound like you don't need extra self improvement. You ate doing plenty. Just my two cents.
Pasttense Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 What about your appearance? Looking sexy... There are all these women's magazines giving advice on this: Cosmopolitan... On the other hand, there is the philosophy that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. So how is your cooking?
Imageiko Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Beach girl, you have such a full, lovely life. Why not dip your toes into dating by chatting up single men and see how you feel. Be present about being a single desirable woman. You don't have to do anything, just be. When I took a 4 year dating break, I never felt ready until I declared myself whole, healed, and complete as I am. You sound like you don't need extra self improvement. You ate doing plenty. Just my two cents. I agree with this. It seems like you've been pretty proactive. Do you not feel like you're ready even after all the work you've put in?
oaks Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 -writing in a journal I'm a doer. I don't wallow much. It won't be much of a journal, then. Either stop writing the journal or start wallowing more.
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