lovesickpuppy Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Okay, so I'm not the best person for advice and can't really offer you anything amazing, but I just want to let all of you dumpee's out there that have been finished in a horrible or callous way, like myself...THERE IS HOPE!! My piece of S**T ex dumped me for no reason, went off 2 weeks later and had sex with an underage girl... I felt sick, empty, couldn't stop thinking of him, questioning if I'd take him back if he ever came back, going through the motions and feeling like I couldn't go on anymore... It's been 3 days since I found all of this out and deleted him from my life and you know what? Yes, it's hard, yes, I sometimes ponder about him...but I'm seeing the bigger picture, I dodged a bullet, I lost nothing good, and I finally found the good in goodbye. My best advice is to listen to any song you can that is really uplifting and basically disses your piece of crap ex.. my favourite at the moment is 'best thing I never had - beyonce' wow, when I picture myself singing that to him, or even saying to him I get such a big thrill and realise, it really does suck to be him...maybe not now, but in the future when he comes running back, I'll laugh in his face. Secondly, find any distraction you can..right now all my friends have gone to university, I am here alone, trying to deal with this break up by myself, so firstly, I pushed myself to do the things I'd wanted to do for so long but never had the motivation to: I've booked my driving test, applied to my life long dream of jobs, started eating healthily and enjoying my time alone Finally, don't put those idiots on that pedestal, they don't deserve it, they're below that pedestal. Write down a list of everything you can remember about how badly they treated you, how much you hated some of the things they did to you. Then read through it, you start realising you had nothing good!! Don't pine over them, they're not pining over us, but one day karma will repay them for the way they treated us, one day! I'm not sure if this was a good post, I'm just feeling a burst of happiness and realising we DON'T deserve any of this! If anyone would like to talk, I'm here
dumpedandsore Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Okay, so I'm not the best person for advice and can't really offer you anything amazing, but I just want to let all of you dumpee's out there that have been finished in a horrible or callous way, like myself...THERE IS HOPE!! My piece of S**T ex dumped me for no reason, went off 2 weeks later and had sex with an underage girl... I felt sick, empty, couldn't stop thinking of him, questioning if I'd take him back if he ever came back, going through the motions and feeling like I couldn't go on anymore... It's been 3 days since I found all of this out and deleted him from my life and you know what? Yes, it's hard, yes, I sometimes ponder about him...but I'm seeing the bigger picture, I dodged a bullet, I lost nothing good, and I finally found the good in goodbye. My best advice is to listen to any song you can that is really uplifting and basically disses your piece of crap ex.. my favourite at the moment is 'best thing I never had - beyonce' wow, when I picture myself singing that to him, or even saying to him I get such a big thrill and realise, it really does suck to be him...maybe not now, but in the future when he comes running back, I'll laugh in his face. Secondly, find any distraction you can..right now all my friends have gone to university, I am here alone, trying to deal with this break up by myself, so firstly, I pushed myself to do the things I'd wanted to do for so long but never had the motivation to: I've booked my driving test, applied to my life long dream of jobs, started eating healthily and enjoying my time alone Finally, don't put those idiots on that pedestal, they don't deserve it, they're below that pedestal. Write down a list of everything you can remember about how badly they treated you, how much you hated some of the things they did to you. Then read through it, you start realising you had nothing good!! Don't pine over them, they're not pining over us, but one day karma will repay them for the way they treated us, one day! I'm not sure if this was a good post, I'm just feeling a burst of happiness and realising we DON'T deserve any of this! If anyone would like to talk, I'm here yes, you are right, i have been doing that..and am feeling good dont let undeserving, uncaring ppl hurt us
futuregopher Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Thanks for the advice. Good post. I sometimes listen to Leona Lewis - Better in Time...sometimes it makes me sad but a good kind of sad where there is hope that time will heal all. I'm a 21 year old guy and not embarrassed!! I blast it in my apartment and blasted it in my dorm before.
mike588 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Not so sure about Karma but I can't help but hope sometimes that she gets dumped hard like me and has to go thru the pain that she inflicted on me. The justice of time is not really mine.
Surf Rider Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I'm right there with you. My ex dumped me about a year and a half ago, now she's with somebody else. It took me a while to get over her but i have moved on. I pined over her for a long time because i was so devestated because she was my first girlfriend. She lied to me many many times and that makes me think that she probably lied about many other things. Anybody who needs someone to talk to let me know. I'm here for you:)
mike588 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 (edited) I'm right there with you. My ex dumped me about a year and a half ago, now she's with somebody else. It took me a while to get over her but i have moved on. I pined over her for a long time because i was so devestated because she was my first girlfriend. She lied to me many many times and that makes me think that she probably lied about many other things. Anybody who needs someone to talk to let me know. I'm here for you:) You may know my story, my ex g/f dumped me for her ex b/f 2 weeks after she healed from surgery.Before the dumping she used/lied to me for almost a year as her rebound guy. Talk about being dumped in a horrible way! Edited October 5, 2011 by mike588
Author lovesickpuppy Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 In my own opinion I just think it's best not to dwell on the past and how horrible they were to us, but to just remember that they are set in their own sick ways and will no doubt end up treating their new flames exactly the same way as us. The question is, will their new flames put up with what they did? Something I highly doubt. Going through this will only make us all stronger, and one day we will be able to look back on these events and feel nothing but pity for our exes that felt so insecure in themselves that they felt the need to break us down with them. I am also here for anyone right now, we are all in this together and that's the beautiful thing about it, no matter where we are in the world, we know that we have someone there for us
Author lovesickpuppy Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Thanks for the advice. Good post. I sometimes listen to Leona Lewis - Better in Time...sometimes it makes me sad but a good kind of sad where there is hope that time will heal all. I'm a 21 year old guy and not embarrassed!! I blast it in my apartment and blasted it in my dorm before. Good for you futuregopher !! As long as you are coming along just fine that's all that matters! WE CAN DO THIS!!! It is definitely our time to shine, our time to create our own happiness, and with all of that we will start to attract positives!!
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Good post but I do not believe in Karma simply because of the fact it would mean there is justice in this world when there isn't. Simply moving on and having a great life is the best thing you can do to say to your "I don't need you and thanks to you leaving I have found someone much more fulfilling than your lame ass, have a nice day :)"
Surf Rider Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You may know my story, my ex g/f dumped me for her ex b/f 2 weeks after she healed from surgery.Before the dumping she used/lied to me for almost a year as her rebound guy. Talk about being dumped in a horrible way! Man that stinks. Yeah my ex lied a lot too.
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