aj22one Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I think I've gotten to a point where I have to be honest with myself. I think I have a fetish for "brown" women. You know Middle Eastern, Indian/South Asian girls. I don't think it's a forbidden fruit thing because it didn't matter if the girl in question was allowed to date or not, I was still strongly attracted to her. I also don't think it's a phase I'm going through either, I've pretty much always been attracted to these types of women. It's also not just about looks either because I'm interested in the cultural stuff too. Looking back almost all of the women that I dated or tried to date were either Indian or Middle Eastern. It's not like I've never been attracted a white girl or any other types, but I don't think the attraction is as strong as it was toward ME/Indian girls. IME it sometimes makes dating harder than usual because a lot of women aren't into dating men outside the culture or aren't "allowed" to date (because of religion or what have you), so from a logical point of view it does nothing good for me, but still I can't shake that attraction. But is this bad? I've heard of Asian fetishes which are kinda sorta looked down on by some, but a "brown" fetish? Is that just as bad? If so, what does one do about it?
Author aj22one Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Who cares? You like what you like, why let others opinions sway your mind. I am a white man and I only date white women, I never have and never will have sex with a non-white woman or date a non-white woman. Many people say to me that I'm bigoted and I'm racist because I refuse to date outside of my race, but that's my decisions and I am accountable to no one for my view. If you like Asian women then good for you, I am sure there are many Asian females who love white men. It's not that I really care all that much what other people think (not that I would advertise it publicly anyway), I'm more just soliciting opinions on it.
ShatteredReality Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You like what you like - that's good. Just keep in mind that there are still some places where mixed couples aren't welcome - know those places and plan your vacations accordingly.
Easyguy14 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You like what you like - that's good. Just keep in mind that there are still some places where mixed couples aren't welcome - know those places and plan your vacations accordingly. and what places would that be? outside of disapproving families I've never heard of cities or countries stopping or rejecting an interracial couple from entering their territory if there's money to be made.
Queen Zenobia Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Who cares? You like what you like, why let others opinions sway your mind. I am a white man and I only date white women, I never have and never will have sex with a non-white woman or date a non-white woman. Many people say to me that I'm bigoted and I'm racist because I refuse to date outside of my race, but that's my decisions and I am accountable to no one for my view. If you like Asian women then good for you, I am sure there are many Asian females who love white men. I would never say you were racist or bigoted unless you felt that other people should follow your example or that your preferences were best for everyone (i.e. "people should stick with their own kind" sort of thing). Otherwise what you're describing is your personal preference.
Queen Zenobia Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 and what places would that be? outside of disapproving families I've never heard of cities or countries stopping or rejecting an interracial couple from entering their territory if there's money to be made. There are some places where it might be frowned upon and/or illegal. A lot of the Gulf states (Persian Gulf not Gulf of Mexico), Istanbul, other countries where the girl might have family (like India, Pakistan, Iran, etc.).
ShatteredReality Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 and what places would that be? outside of disapproving families I've never heard of cities or countries stopping or rejecting an interracial couple from entering their territory if there's money to be made. Just certain places, culturally, they don't like it. I had a friend who was a black man with a white wife - he said he'd never even consider taking his wife on vacation to some of the places he grew up in the south. I didn't delve into it much, I told him it was ridiculous and anybody who had a problem with their marriage was stupid - but he swore there are some who still have such strong racial biases that it wouldn't be worth the risk. He even went so far as to say even if his wife were another minority he'd be fine, but the fact that she was white was why he had to be careful. All I was saying is - while I don't agree with these racial biases, it's smarter to know they're out there and be realistic about these things. Some Indian cultures would not welcome mixed race couple into their villages without some sneering and potential cruelty. Obviously the more common tourist areas would be accustomed to it - but it still wouldn't hurt to know before you go.
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