Easyguy14 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 my profile hasn't been up long, maybe 2 weeks or so. the several women I felt expressed interest in emailing me back just hasn't gone beyond that. when I ask for their numbers, they suddenly dont reply anymore, except a woman that was not far from me. she gave me her phone number, but all it's been was texts after texts. when I attempted to make plans with her, she suddenly tells me that she's in san francisco til the end of this year? I dont understand this because it feels like Im wasting my time with this. Im only on okcupid because it's free and my career is very demanding so Im not often available to just meet women on the go, except for stores when I shop and Im not privy on doing that as much. does people really have to do the paid dating site thing for results? any advice/experiences?
SJC2008 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Unless you have a college degree I wouldn't bother with a paid site as most women on the paid sites are mid 20's+ with a degree and MOST require a degree as well. There are millions of threads on this site about OLD. My opinion is that women on dating sites try to date out of their league or are just very picky. Bottom line is that unless you are better than average looking and have a good job/degree don't waste your time.
CocoaBrown Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 my profile hasn't been up long, maybe 2 weeks or so. the several women I felt expressed interest in emailing me back just hasn't gone beyond that. when I ask for their numbers, they suddenly dont reply anymore, except a woman that was not far from me. she gave me her phone number, but all it's been was texts after texts. when I attempted to make plans with her, she suddenly tells me that she's in san francisco til the end of this year? I dont understand this because it feels like Im wasting my time with this. Im only on okcupid because it's free and my career is very demanding so Im not often available to just meet women on the go, except for stores when I shop and Im not privy on doing that as much. does people really have to do the paid dating site thing for results? any advice/experiences? Hey there, I understand your frustration but let me tell you what I learned doing online dating. You have to be VERY specific on your profile. If you are looking to meet face to face and not just endlessly text, state that on your profile. It may come off rude, but if that's what you are looking for then the right person will appreciate what you have to say and message you. In order to be specific you need to know what you want. Do you? Are you looking to just date or are you looking for that one special person to have a relationship with? What's on your profile? Do you have information about you that makes you stand out? Or do you have the same boring standard information? When you message women do you have something to say? Or are you saying "Hey, what's up?" Not accusing you of doing something wrong, just throwing some things out there including the things that made me not respond to some people. When I think back to what I used to have on my profile I just laugh. It didn't have alot of information so men didn't have anything to go off of. I also wasn't talking to them long enough before numbers were exchanged and we met. I don't like to talk so long that we lose interest....and I do believe something should be left to chat about in person, but after only a few messages meeting face to face was just too soon (for me anyway) and since meeting takes time and energy, I felt frustrated when I met someone that if I had just asked the right questions online, I would have never met in the first place. There were definitely times I got frustrated and felt like giving up though so that's normal. But I wanted to find someone so I kept trying. I started to look at only the profiles that met the basics: No kids, my type in the looks department, non smokers, job, car. If one of those didn't line up...no message was sent. I met a really nice guy who I have been dating for 2 months off of Plenty of Fish. I wanna say I met him within the first month I was on there and I like him alot. Once I met him I didn't want to search anymore and I met three guys altogether from there. Like you I wanted a free website. I tried eHarmony but sorry I don't wanna pay. You might wanna sign up for that and try communicating on free weekends though (lol) which are on most holidays, but give Plenty of Fish a whirl. Did I just say whirl? Oh lawd! Hopefully I've been helpful and that this all makes sense cause I don't have time to go back and read it through as my break is over. Good luck!
grkBoy Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I think they're a waste of time, but every area is different. In Chicago I noticed the pay sites were loaded with "free profiles" that never receive your emails, and attractive women who are holding out for guys who never come along (tall/hot/wealthy/exciting...and they want to commit). On the free sites, it just seemed loaded with women who have massive red flags, and again women holding out for standards they won't find on those sites. I won't say they're a total waste, because many out there did not have the poor experiences I did.
oaks Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 my profile hasn't been up long, maybe 2 weeks or so. I don't think you can draw too many conclusions after only 2 weeks.
irc333 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I think they're a waste of time, but every area is different. In Chicago I noticed the pay sites were loaded with "free profiles" that never receive your emails, and attractive women who are holding out for guys who never come along (tall/hot/wealthy/exciting...and they want to commit). On the free sites, it just seemed loaded with women who have massive red flags, and again women holding out for standards they won't find on those sites. I won't say they're a total waste, because many out there did not have the poor experiences I did. Right, and there is a rather LIMITED amount of people on dating sites, where as you could be meeting your "Hunk" out in public. Saying your chances are better to hold out for "tall , dark and handsome" in a public venue more so than an online venue, because these men are hardly on those dating sites...and if th
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