Bruised Not Broken Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 So...I'm still feeling good friends I'm feeling good about me...about the BU and about working on my life and my needs. However, the ex has been emailing...and I have been talking to him...and continue to feel good. No..he isn't trying to get back...No I don't think he is and I'm still fine with the contact. It's not upsetting me. If anything...he has succeeded in making me really glad he is gone. He is asking questions about if I'm seeing anyone..if I have slept with anyone...etc...and then proceeds to tell me not to "put out to quickly...not to be a trashy whore" Yes, I slept with him too quickly...but we were then together for over a year and I was a devoted faithful lovign g/f. At the end...now he is implying I was a whore. UM....really??? Was okay for a year...but now that you left me I'm a whore?? This is from a guy who told me about his newest conquest and how many times he banged her and how hot her body was (as I have stated before I have a few baby birthing battle scars...and he knows how insecure they made me) So here months later he is still making nasty comments to me. And you know what...I'm glad. I know I'm anything but a whore. and I told him Yes, I made the mistake of having sex with him too soon...was I a whore? No because I then devoted myself to him...all the while HE was cheating and lying..so...who is the whore??? Not me baby. I said Did sleeping with you that fast make me a whore? No...stupid? Absolutely....Naive? Absolutely...a whore? No.....it was claerly okay for the year you stuck around and got all you could out of me...while pulling it in from anywhere else you could get it from too. So...save your nasty comments. But, truthfully it makes me glad you are gone...and makes me realize how far up your ass your head really is. Now...don't scold me for the contact...because honestly...I'm really glad we had the conversation we had. I see more accurately who he is...and I'm now counting my blessings that I am free of that. I deserve someone that appreciates me and what I have to offer. Am I a "sexual" person...yes...but I dont' jump from bed to bed. I don't bang random guys. I met someone that I was connected to and took a leap of faith in him...wrongly placed...but live and learn. I'll be much more careful next time around. I'm feeling damn good today...even after being called a whore. lol He dumped me and he is the bitter little bitch lately. Not my problem.
smudge21 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Hmm, there goes a man with a few issues that he needs to deal with rather than projecting them onto others. Me thinks he could do well to purchase a few mirrors so he could see the real cause of his problems.
Author Bruised Not Broken Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Hmm, there goes a man with a few issues that he needs to deal with rather than projecting them onto others. Me thinks he could do well to purchase a few mirrors so he could see the real cause of his problems. I spent a lot of time beating myself up....but seeing more clearly the dysfunction that I was dealing with. I'm not perfect....I share blame in our demise, but I could never be so cruel to someone that I knew cared for me and I knew was hurting. But....thats just me.
Thieves Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Now...don't scold me for the contact...because honestly...I'm really glad we had the conversation we had. I see more accurately who he is...and I'm now counting my blessings that I am free of that. I deserve someone that appreciates me and what I have to offer. Am I a "sexual" person...yes...but I dont' jump from bed to bed. I don't bang random guys. I met someone that I was connected to and took a leap of faith in him...wrongly placed...but live and learn. I'll be much more careful next time around. I'm feeling damn good today...even after being called a whore. lol He dumped me and he is the bitter little bitch lately. Not my problem. Am feeling pretty good myself too, though that may be the Beach Boys music working its magic on me. No, but I won't 'scold you' for the contact, B'N'B! Sometimes it does take a conversation like that to give us perspective. Kinda like the final nail on the coffin. It's what I went through, except not as indirectly *******-ish. It was just him rubbing his girlfriend in my face YET again. Same ole story, like he did to me before. Only this time it was more intense. How he was getting serious about her, how she was so amazing, how he was so 'distressed' over her. I tried to suck it up and be a supportive "friend", but I literally just gave up after that conversation. It wasn't worth hurting myself anymore. Especially since he should've sensed I was hurting, but he kept going. And if he didn't sense that, then would I really want to be with someone who's so oblivious to my pain? It's awesome that you're seeing him for who he really is. And I don't mean in a "He's a bad, evil person who never deserves happiness" way, but it helped you realize that you two aren't compatible for each other. And even if you do feel alright, just try to keep the contact in check... this is about you healing, not him.
Author Bruised Not Broken Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I tried to suck it up and be a supportive "friend", but I literally just gave up after that conversation. It wasn't worth hurting myself anymore. Especially since he should've sensed I was hurting, but he kept going. And if he didn't sense that, then would I really want to be with someone who's so oblivious to my pain? It's awesome that you're seeing him for who he really is. And I don't mean in a "He's a bad, evil person who never deserves happiness" way, but it helped you realize that you two aren't compatible for each other. And even if you do feel alright, just try to keep the contact in check... this is about you healing, not him. I'm glad u are feeling good too!! Being a friend is wonderful:but when they don't treat us with respect for our feelings, they aren't our friends. I don't think he doesn't deserve happiness...I just think he needs to realize how he treats others. You get what u give.
lymtal1 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 bnb, no scolding, you sound good............that is great.
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