dumpedandsore Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 as you know i have been cruelly dumped 2 months ago, recently, i gain back my confidence and trying to build a new life. Then i left my ex company, a ex male colleague wanted to keep in contacted with me so i dropped him an email. We dont know each other well and hardly talk to one another. Well, to my surprise, since then, he has been emailing me almost daily with random rants about his work and academic problems. Then i thought, it seems like a sharing session and i also confided in him about my work problems. Then he asked me a question, why am i confiding in him when we hardly know each other well in person and if im attached, i shouldnt be in any form of conversation with him, i agreed and we remained in touch. I make it clear that im single and not looking. Today he told me he has some problems at work. As a natural instinct and as a "friend" , i asked if he is willing to share about his problems. He then suddenly gave me a revelation of things : (1) I am a nice girl, he is more willing to share and open up to me given more time (2) he sincerely wants to know me better as a friend (3) he wants our communication to be kept a secret as he wants to maintains his privacy and feaful that our ex colleagues may gossip and have the wrong impression of us. Im totally hurted. All along, i was simply replying his email and seeking comfort from him since he took the initiative to send his regards to me daily. Now, he is suddenly maintaining and drawing his distance from me. I didnt send or show any gestures that im romantically interested in him. In fact, i just thought he would make a good confidant, a good friend for me to share my job-hunting woes. It was just normal conversational topics , there was nothing romantic about it. Why must he suddenly behaved this way? I felt hurted, rejected and offended, i told him i dont like him and did he think i liked him? He said he appreciate it if i dont mention it, as he doesnt know me well and only take me as a friend. he even added he has no time for relationship now and if he indeed likes me, he wouldnt be explaining it to me.. i dont understand..why are guys so fast to maintain and draw boundaries and give their stand..when i didnt even say/hint i like the,, it is just based simply on their own assumptions.. am i so awful as a person that they have to make it so clear so soon that we can only be nothing but secret friends? im hurted again.. another unexpected rejection
Mar1neOne Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 He sounds like he is playing games to me, or he has mental issues.
Author dumpedandsore Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 He sounds like he is playing games to me, or he has mental issues. nah he is perfectly normal
Author dumpedandsore Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 nah he is perfectly normal so any other comments on why he is behaving this way
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