BLuvv Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Day 9 NC...I was feeling pretty angry at first and it made me actually decide to really do the whole no contact thing. Now the anger faded and I'm just sad..not as bad as yesterday, but still. I felt more motivated when I was angry..now I just want to wallow. Bahhh! I'm tired..maybe I'm just too tired to be angry and need a nap! Lol I need an extra nap cubicle..that would be great! Haha. At least I'm getting more work done today. Seriously, though this being sad crap needs to just stop, I'm so tired of it!!
samphs Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Getting work done has been my bigest challege..... I feel like sleeping for a whole week.
TheDovic Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Unfortunately your emotions are going to change like this and it really sucks! Many people think the stages of grieving are set out one after the other but in reality some of the stages we think we've already been through will come back i.e. you may have experienced denial, anger and depression, but any one of these can come back at any time during your grieving. You'll keep going through them until your mind has really come to terms with the loss, which can take a long time. So you'll probably be angry angry but for now you're sad and probably will be again!!!
Author BLuvv Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Yeah, yesterday you would've thought I had ADD. The last thing I wanted to do was work. Today I just sucked it up and got to working on stuff I'm behind on. Losing motivation though. Being tired and sad is really bad for motivation! The anger kind of got the adrenaline going...but yeah staying angry is probably really bad though anyways. Lol
mike588 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Unfortunately your emotions are going to change like this and it really sucks! Many people think the stages of grieving are set out one after the other but in reality some of the stages we think we've already been through will come back i.e. you may have experienced denial, anger and depression, but any one of these can come back at any time during your grieving. You'll keep going through them until your mind has really come to terms with the loss, which can take a long time. So you'll probably be angry angry but for now you're sad and probably will be again!!! Great response. I feel the same way, sad angry, back to sad and it sucks. I'm beyond of being sick of it and I'm only 2 months into being dumped. Ahhhhhhhh
TheDovic Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Great response. I feel the same way, sad angry, back to sad and it sucks. I'm beyond of being sick of it and I'm only 2 months into being dumped. Ahhhhhhhh I'm 2 months in too Mike and it's really frustrating when you go back to the depression stage once you thought you've dealt with it! I've been sad again this past few days and it SUCKS!!! But we'll get there buddy
TheDovic Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Yeah, yesterday you would've thought I had ADD. The last thing I wanted to do was work. Today I just sucked it up and got to working on stuff I'm behind on. Losing motivation though. Being tired and sad is really bad for motivation! The anger kind of got the adrenaline going...but yeah staying angry is probably really bad though anyways. Lol Feels so much better though lol
Author BLuvv Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Unfortunately your emotions are going to change like this and it really sucks! Many people think the stages of grieving are set out one after the other but in reality some of the stages we think we've already been through will come back i.e. you may have experienced denial, anger and depression, but any one of these can come back at any time during your grieving. You'll keep going through them until your mind has really come to terms with the loss, which can take a long time. So you'll probably be angry angry but for now you're sad and probably will be again!!! Yep, and they don't seem to go in any order. I've done loads of depressing days and plenty of denial over the past year. Think I clung to denial way too long! I think I needed more anger to stand up for myself, instead of being all sad about stuff and letting myself be used. But then I feel bad being angry at my ex because he would throw it back in my face if I got mad, even though I was upset for something he did. So I pushed those feelings aside. A little anger may be healthy I feel like...I think I've turned most of my anger inward. It's stupid to put up so much with crap from people and feel like I can't stick up for myself.
Author BLuvv Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Great response. I feel the same way, sad angry, back to sad and it sucks. I'm beyond of being sick of it and I'm only 2 months into being dumped. Ahhhhhhhh Yep, I've been through one other bad breakup (probably much worse than this) and went through all that then. It sucks doing it again. But better to go through it once instead of like I have been going with my ex...on and off again..it was like going through the breakup over and over..and that's just stupid! I'm at least glad I decided not to keep doing that anymore!
Author BLuvv Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Feels so much better though lol Exactly! I was all angry and motivated! And then I lost it...d****t! Lol:D
TheDovic Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 It'll come back dude. Just imagine how good it'll feel
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