Ajax Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Saturday I'm attending one of my best friends wedding as a groomsman, and as my date I'm bringing along a friend of mine who I've fancied for quite a while. The past few weeks we've broken down some physical boundaries we've previously had. We stand and sit closer together, touch and hug more, and have begun flirting a lot more than ever before. I can't tell if she's interested in me or not, but risks aside, I'd definitely like to see if I can escape the Friend Zone. Considering the recent changes in our dynamic, here's a little thing I'm considering doing, but I'm curious if you guys (especially girls) would find this sexy or creepy. I'll be escorting one of the brides made's down the aisle, and my date will already be seated. When I go to join her but before the ceremony begins, I lightly touch her arm, lean in and whisper in her ear "I think you're the most beautiful woman here." Then check her reaction, and then lean in again slowly and say "but I know you're the sexiest." Then look forward and act like nothing happened. Sexy or creepy as @&**? I can see it either way.
Thierro Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You'll do fine with just the first line. Don't make it awkward though. You also don't need to look her in the eyes afterward. It may make her feel uncomfortable when you do. Especially if she didn't expect something like that. Say it with confidence and be genuine about it. It'll probably work out differently than your current expactations. Keep it light and fun and a little bit sexy.
make me believe Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Just stick with telling her she's the most beautiful woman there. The "but I know you're the sexiest" is kinda strange and doesn't really make sense.. you THINK she's the most beautiful but you KNOW she's the sexiest? I don't really get it. The first part is good though.
Pierre Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Saturday I'm attending one of my best friends wedding as a groomsman, and as my date I'm bringing along a friend of mine who I've fancied for quite a while. The past few weeks we've broken down some physical boundaries we've previously had. We stand and sit closer together, touch and hug more, and have begun flirting a lot more than ever before. I can't tell if she's interested in me or not, but risks aside, I'd definitely like to see if I can escape the Friend Zone. Considering the recent changes in our dynamic, here's a little thing I'm considering doing, but I'm curious if you guys (especially girls) would find this sexy or creepy. I'll be escorting one of the brides made's down the aisle, and my date will already be seated. When I go to join her but before the ceremony begins, I lightly touch her arm, lean in and whisper in her ear "I think you're the most beautiful woman here." Then check her reaction, and then lean in again slowly and say "but I know you're the sexiest." Then look forward and act like nothing happened. Sexy or creepy as @&**? I can see it either way. Dude: Why all the planning to say something spontaneous? If I have a female friend and she is hot I generally let her know she is looking great. It is no big deal as long as you do not over do it. You already asked her to be your date at the wedding and she will likely have a nice outfit for the occasion. That in itself begs for a compliment. No wonder she has put you in the FZ.:o
Lucky_One Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You are a groomsman? Why are you sitting with your date during the ceremony instead of standing at the front of the church with the rest of the wedding party? Cut the sex line.
rightfield Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I think all of this planning and thinking about it will make it sound contrived on delivery and maybe even awkward. Why not when you pick her up to go to the wedding, you take a long look at her when your first see her and tell her how great she looks right then. She will have been working for a while getting ready and will appreciate the immediate and sincere compliment.
denise_xo Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Why not when you pick her up to go to the wedding, you take a long look at her when your first see her and tell her how great she looks right then. She will have been working for a while getting ready and will appreciate the immediate and sincere compliment. This. And I agree with the rest, cut the sexy line.
ScienceGal Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 The first part about being the most beautiful woman there is sweet. Stick with just that (don't say the sexy part).
ShannonMI Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Saturday I'm attending one of my best friends wedding as a groomsman, and as my date I'm bringing along a friend of mine who I've fancied for quite a while. The past few weeks we've broken down some physical boundaries we've previously had. We stand and sit closer together, touch and hug more, and have begun flirting a lot more than ever before. I can't tell if she's interested in me or not, but risks aside, I'd definitely like to see if I can escape the Friend Zone. Considering the recent changes in our dynamic, here's a little thing I'm considering doing, but I'm curious if you guys (especially girls) would find this sexy or creepy. I'll be escorting one of the brides made's down the aisle, and my date will already be seated. When I go to join her but before the ceremony begins, I lightly touch her arm, lean in and whisper in her ear "I think you're the most beautiful woman here." Then check her reaction, and then lean in again slowly and say "but I know you're the sexiest." Then look forward and act like nothing happened. Sexy or creepy as @&**? I can see it either way. Hey Ajax, glad to see you are dating again. I rememeber you on the coping section of LS when you were having a really hard time with your breakup. It's always good to see people moving onward and upward from all the hurt and pain. That being said, no I think you saying that to the girl would be sweet. She will appreciate it for sure. If she doesn't then there is something wrong with her.
ShannonMI Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Dude: Why all the planning to say something spontaneous? If I have a female friend and she is hot I generally let her know she is looking great. It is no big deal as long as you do not over do it. You already asked her to be your date at the wedding and she will likely have a nice outfit for the occasion. That in itself begs for a compliment. No wonder she has put you in the FZ.:o Go easy. He's just moving on from a bad breakup. Yeah the line might be a little cheesy, but at least he's trying.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Just say the first part, not the second.
Author Ajax Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 Thanks everyone for your opinions. And this is why I posted this, I want constructive feedback. I'll be nixing the sexy part and think I'll go with the first part. But I'll play it by ear. I do want to escalate this though, and I'm not going to get anywhere playing it safe all the time. If anyone else wants to weigh in on this it would be appreciated.
neghitzbrah Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Every women loves to hear how beautiful they are. And true, do not over do it otherwise it'll sound fake and take the meaning out of it. Please go through with what you want and give us the details... so I can live vicariously through it.
Dust Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Just kiss her already. You have to creep some eggs to make an omelette.
AmEricanWomann Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Thanks everyone for your opinions. And this is why I posted this, I want constructive feedback. I'll be nixing the sexy part and think I'll go with the first part. But I'll play it by ear. I do want to escalate this though, and I'm not going to get anywhere playing it safe all the time. If anyone else wants to weigh in on this it would be appreciated. What pretty much everyone else said....The first part, not the second and don't make it awkward. that's really how alot of guys get exiled to the friend zone. They try too hard, they make things awkward for the woman and she's just not attracted to the guy because of that. The part where you call her beautiful is great and after that just act natural and don't put on any kind of an act or show.
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