Verbal Communication

[LSgirl]

I know this isn't a huge deal, but I get kind of annoyed sometimes how my boyfriend says things. For example, tonight we were talking about rental deposits and I told him how there were things that got damaged and he said "Well, if I'm still around then I can fix it for you" Still around?! I called him out on it and said that was mean how he said that even though I know he didn't mean it like that. I didn't know if he meant like if we were still together, or when he talks about his plans on moving away in a year or two. Then he said he was going to his friend's birthday dinner tomorrow and said he might come over to "crash" at my place. I told him not to come over if he meant he was going to get wasted and come over. He then said "I didn't mean it like, I just meant to come and sleep over". When he was talking about the birthday dinner he said "It starts at 7pm and I'll probably be there for a few hours because they want to go out after dinner too. You can come if you want" It just didn't seem like he really cared if I went or not. Maybe I was already irritated with the "still around" comment that everything else he said on the phone tonight just irritated me.

 

I told him the way he says things sometimes can come off kind of rude. Usually I let it slide bc I know he doesn't mean it in such ways, but tonight I just felt like calling him out on things. I know I should just let it go, but the fact that I don't know where our relationship is going at 9 months and him saying "if I'm still around" kind of hurt hearing it. Anyway, we talked about an hour and a half on the phone and by the time I got off the phone, he could tell if I was irritated. We don't ever argue, but tonight I just felt so annoyed with how he came across, I even told him he never laughed at my jokes lol maybe I'm just being sensitive tonight, but do things like that bother anyone else?