red shoes Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I'm keen to know your online dating experience. I've read on LS that some people talked for months before meeting up. Hell, I've never had someone that was so interested in me or interesting to talk to for so long before we decided whether we wanted to meet up or disappear from each other's lives forever. Some people recounted stories of how they instantly knew they met their soulmates. I only remember realising that many of these people I talk to and I have different wavelengths. I've talked to and met different people through online dating. But I have yet to meet that someone from the Internet that I can say I've been talking to or dating for a few months now. I just don't know.
Voldar Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Eh, not so well. Message girls sincerely about stuff they write about themselves, showing interest and receive a message back sometimes. Very rarely does it continue though even though I continue to show interest and am intellectual about it. So I just login now and see if anything has changed, anyone new. Maybe read 5-10 profiles I come across that are well written and share common views on things such as if they smoke, etc. Then message 3-4 of them depending. Then most of the time it starts all over again with maybe one sending something back then not really talking after a message or two. It's been a weird experience, I'm not really let down because I didn't go in hoping for anything, but I did go in and still have confidence in chatting with girls... but it seems most of them don't go on their for that. Then again, not every girl is going to be a "keeper." Some may just be on their looking for a casual sexual encounter, who knows. So I'll continue my path, but I'm becoming more convinced that I'll just meet girls and date within the real world versus meeting them online and then dating.
Author red shoes Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Eh, not so well. Message girls sincerely about stuff they write about themselves, showing interest and receive a message back sometimes. Very rarely does it continue though even though I continue to show interest and am intellectual about it. So I just login now and see if anything has changed, anyone new. Maybe read 5-10 profiles I come across that are well written and share common views on things such as if they smoke, etc. Then message 3-4 of them depending. Then most of the time it starts all over again with maybe one sending something back then not really talking after a message or two. It's been a weird experience, I'm not really let down because I didn't go in hoping for anything, but I did go in and still have confidence in chatting with girls... but it seems most of them don't go on their for that. Then again, not every girl is going to be a "keeper." Some may just be on their looking for a casual sexual encounter, who knows. So I'll continue my path, but I'm becoming more convinced that I'll just meet girls and date within the real world versus meeting them online and then dating. I know what you mean. I've gone into messaging guys with sincerity and wanted to get to know some of them. But they tend to be flaky. Then the whole thing loses its momentum. It's almost like pulling teeth. Sometimes I wonder why these people even bother with online dating. Minus the players that only want a casual setting (though they didn't just put it out there, which would have saved many of us a lot of time) and those tha don't seem to put in the effort, who else is left on online dating?
Voldar Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Those of us trying are left as far as I see it. Which seems to be a small percentage, so running into each other is a lot like trying to win the lottery, but since the dating sites I use are free, I don't mind playing. However I meet a girl doesn't matter. Just that I meet her someday.
zengirl Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Really well, actually. I am pretty sure I'm going to marry the current BF someday, and I met him on OKC. I met the last one on OKC too, and I learned a lot from that relationship and now consider it part of why I met the current BF. I've met a few others on there as well. My age range was 25-33. I messaged my BF myself, and generally all the men that worked out best were men I messaged. My BF and I had a 94% compatibility rating on OKC. The last guy and I had a 91% compatibility rating, and most of the men I went out with were above 85%.
oaks Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I'm keen to know your online dating experience. I'm currently enjoying dating a woman I met online.
ChessPieceFace Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I wonder... maybe it isn't allowed to link profiles now? But I'd love to see a thread with success/failure rates where we could see everyone's linked profile as well. Then that could give everyone ideas as to what things work in a profile, and what things don't.
thatcatlady67 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I have completely given up on online dating. It has led to nothing but disappointment and heartache for me. I have found that meeting in person from the get-go is the best way for me to meet people. The guy I am dating is a co-worker, I have known him for 3 years. But this is just me. YMMV
Author red shoes Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Really well, actually. I am pretty sure I'm going to marry the current BF someday, and I met him on OKC. I met the last one on OKC too, and I learned a lot from that relationship and now consider it part of why I met the current BF. I've met a few others on there as well. My age range was 25-33. I messaged my BF myself, and generally all the men that worked out best were men I messaged. My BF and I had a 94% compatibility rating on OKC. The last guy and I had a 91% compatibility rating, and most of the men I went out with were above 85%. I'm currently enjoying dating a woman I met online. That's really good to know. I'm happy for you. I actually find that most of those that messaged me first turned out better. I guess it's because they're already "interested" to begin with so it worked better than those I had to say "hello, I'm here. Can you see me?" It would be good when one day I could post here and say that I'm happy with someone I met online. I have completely given up on online dating. It has led to nothing but disappointment and heartache for me. I have found that meeting in person from the get-go is the best way for me to meet people. The guy I am dating is a co-worker, I have known him for 3 years. But this is just me. YMMV I would like to meet someone in real life and date them too. But it just hasn't happened that way for me since my ex-boyfriend. I'm hoping online dating would help.
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