NotCarrieBradshaw Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 So my boyfriend and I have decided to get married, I have been planning the wedding for about 1 month now and for the past few days I have been feeling that its a bad idea. (of course I haven't said it to him but that is how I'm feeling) we have been together for almost 1 year, when we got together I was hesitant due to the fact that he had a baby already. However, in the beginning he told me that his and his "Baby's Mother" ( I hate when men use this term, as if they are claiming these women... Its the kid that they are attached to) had not been together for quite sometime now and they hated each other, she had also just gotten married and wouldn't let him see the kid. Now I know this may sound a little selfish but I was happy to hear that and that was also the reason that I agreed to go against being with someone with a child already. months later they started to ease up on the arguing and the only way he could see his off spring was if he came to her house. (guess she wanted to flaunt her new family off around him) so he went a few times then stopped going for a while. after he stopped going he would get phone calls from their mutual friends about how she had his daughter calling the husband daddy. her, knowing his temper would put this out to get a response out of him. Again they worked out their differences, and being that they live a few houses down, over the summer he would go down the street to see the kid outside and hang with her family. So a few moths ago I started to search his phone and found that they txt back and forth. I searched the sims card, not the regular sms inbox. All msg that they sent back and forth had been deleted, so now all of a sudden they're the best of friends and talking about things that has nothing to do with the kid. but this is not my issue, I have been with this man for a year and allegedly, we're going to get married and I have never met his daughter. please let me know if this is normal. oh and by the way, she's 2.
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