barriob Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I am finally gonna tell my ex goodbye and that i am done being there for him. He treats me like crap and doesnt even really see a point in talking to me. What should i say? i am gonna send him one last message.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You tell him that you are thankful for whatever good times you guys had and regret it had to end the way it did. You did not appreciate the inappropriate behavior he has shown you through out the relationship. Good bye. Short, emotionless, no anger, no cursing, and nothing but facts.
Author barriob Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 okay well i want to end it but i am scared
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Barr, Do not be scared. He is just another human, like me, and there so many of us human males! There is nothing to be scared of, you are telling him "Hey jackhole, I am moving on and I appreciate x y z but you know what I don't need you or your unfulfilling relationship, I deserve better, adios, aufweidersehen, and good bye."
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Trust me Barr and remember what I said to you in your other post about why he wants friends, you DO NOT WANT his friendship. Tell me how does being friends with him benefits you in ANY possible way? I would say none because being friends with my ex-fiancee did not benefit me because all she was a cold hearted abusive female dog.
Author barriob Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 yeah, i honestly feel that he is so cold towards me even though he wants to be friends. He doesnt care and if i say anything wrong he gets all mad. I feel so confused and hurt. It's like he knows he has the upper hand and said if i bring the past up, he wont talk to me anymore.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 yeah, i honestly feel that he is so cold towards me even though he wants to be friends. He doesnt care and if i say anything wrong he gets all mad. I feel so confused and hurt. It's like he knows he has the upper hand and said if i bring the past up, he wont talk to me anymore. Oh geez sounds like my ex-fiancee after she falsly accused me of cheating but still wanted to be friends. Well he does have the upper hand because he knows actively or passively that you are still around because you want him back and are hoping to some how to magically swing him to your side. It won't happen, he has to recognize it on his own. I am BEGGING you, a complete stranger, to send a letter/e-mail for closure for yourself if you so desire to still and then cut all contact. What relationship you have with this cruel person is not beneficial to you! So I ask again, HOW DOES STAYING IN CONTACT WITH HIM BENEFIT YOU?
Author barriob Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 i know, but i dont know what to say? mmm, nothing really, I just feel that talking to him is better than not talking to him at all
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I gave you a very generic and well pretty much all you should say to this guy up top. You can add your personal flavor to it, obviously, and if you absolutely feel you must send a good bye letter. Nothing? So why are you talking to him still? You only think that talking to him still is better than nothing is your addiction to the person, the relationship, and the feelings speaking and thinking for you! Let's ask another question, do you want to hear something along the lines of "Hey Barr, great fantastic super awesome news! I found myself the girl of my dreams, she is everything I could have ever ever wanted in a girl! Here are numerous pictures of us together doing similar things we use to do as a couple but find it totally more awesome to do it with my new girl!" So do you want to be around to hear that?
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 So what would be the logical choice at this point Barr?
Author barriob Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 move on and not talk to him anymore. but what about him. i care for him soo much
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Does all his actions and words suggest that he cares about you?
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 That is right. So do you really wish to care about someone that has not a single ounce of care for you?
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I understand how you feel. Now Barr this is the most important question of them all and I know you can answer this 100% correctly! Now what you must do to help yourself, create a positive and beautiful future which you can be so very happy in?
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