MiaColletus Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I've been reading threads on this site for about an hour now and I've noticed how over and over again men and women see their relationships heading in the wrong direction and they can sense it, but are unable to stop it. Why is it that when a man first meets a woman that meets his criteria of what he is interested in, is attractive, and interested, he tends to put all of his effort into getting her and in his effort to impress her creates this "standard" that he is going to treat her a certain way. They become lovesick puppies and of course the harder the woman is to get the more lovesick and happy they are when they actually do get her. Because of experience, most women are cautious in the beginning but eventually warm up that maybe this man wont hurt her and gives in to a relationship. Then, honeymoon phase being over, the couple start discovering certain faults in each other because of course no one is perfect. But there is always one person in the relationship that is able to accept the others fault and that person is usually the woman (probably because she is more invested as women tend to get). The man on the other hand, once fights start to occur or he notices something about his partner that isn't to his complete liking, loses some of his fondness, loses that love/affection/happiness he has been giving and settles into a comfort, even laziness. I feel like a man should just be consistent in the way he treats his partner, not giving 150% at first and then reducing it to 50%. But of course this happens naturally I'm sure they don't do it on purpose, I just want to understand why men lose their desire to constantly please and impress their partners once they get comfortable in a relationship. And I also wonder, is there any way to get this back? Of course this isn't just limited to men although men tend to do it more often, some women lose interest quickly as well in relationships. How do you get a relationship to go from the comfort of having someone to the bliss of having someone as it is in the beginning?
Cypress25 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I don't see any man-bashing here. It is a shame that many men get lazy in relationships and stop putting in effort. I can't say I know how to solve that problem though.
Author MiaColletus Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 I'm sorry if this came off as ban bashing it wasn't my intention I was just wondering how can you get the initial fire and spark someone has for you after the novelty of being in a relationship wears of. I was referring mostly to men because I am a woman so obviously I'm asking in terms of the opposite sex but it definitely applies to both.
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