Ginger Beer Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 In relation to break-ups. I'm not talking about situations like a family bereavement or stuff like that. I think about my break up a lot and feel a lot of sadness, like an aching hurt feeling I think everyone is familiar with but I can't really cry over it, it feels kinda like 'cos I'm a guy it's not normal to because I've got used to holding things in for so long. I mean you can't really get some of your friends round and hug them and have a cry over it . I also find myself quickly thinking to myself that I should be ignoring it and not being 'weak'. Sometimes I think I really want to just cry over it though like girls do .
mike588 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Let it out man, cry. I would'nt cry in front of my friends or family but have alot alone. It really helps,,,, there is nothing wrong with it and it helps the healing process.
Dust Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I'll cry at sad parts in movies and tv shows. I try to do it softly so no one will notice. If I need to cry I try to do it by myself. If I cry while fighting another guy he better watch out because I will fck him up.
Author Ginger Beer Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Let it out man, cry. I would'nt cry in front of my friends or family but have alot alone. It really helps,,,, there is nothing wrong with it and it helps the healing process. Do you think so? I normally just try to stop thinking about it as soon as I start feeling sad.
Author Ginger Beer Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 I'll cry at sad parts in movies and tv shows. I try to do it softly so no one will notice. If I need to cry I try to do it by myself. If I cry while fighting another guy he better watch out because I will fck him up. I hope you never get caught .
Dust Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I hope you never get caught . I've been caught. Just have a good cry already. Stare at yourself in the mirror while you do it.
mike588 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Do you think so? I normally just try to stop thinking about it as soon as I start feeling sad. I guess everyone is different but for me it helps sooooo much. I don't want to hold that hurt inside. I feel better afterwards and it makes me tired so I sleep better.
mike111 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Yes, i found it really hard to cry. I was ashamed of it. How stupid. It releases pain. I am getting better at letting go now.
Dust Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Im a girl and I find it hard to cry. I could probably make you cry
fetish1980 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Hell yeah i've cried multiple times over my break up. The last time i did was last month when moving out of the apartment we both had. It doesn't make me feel any less of a man to cry. Now in front of others that's a different story. fetish
Feelin Frisky Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Most of the time, Prozac keeps me contained emotionally. I love good tears that come with inspiration but don't find myself crying sad tears much. I have felt the want to do so at times, but not the means. If I drink however, I can bawl out loud big time and snivel like a real wussy man.
ccnaboy2000 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I don't really cry often, and when I do its usually just a couple sniffles and my eyes water with like one tear that comes down. Happened today actually. Its the first time since the breakup... took a few weeks but hit like bricks. But all out balling? No I just don't. Doesn't mean it isn't emotionally intense for me though.
ken_25 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Don't worry about what a man is expected to be and be yourself. If you want to or feel you need to cry over this, do it.
Thieves Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I could probably make you cry Sexual tension much? Actually, I almost wrote 'sensual'. Which would've just been... weird as hell. And Ginger Beer, you seem like a pretty tough lad, but there's nothing wrong with having a good cry. Don't they say crying actually helps because it cleanses the body of toxins? But anyway. I actually respect men a little more when they say they've cried during break-ups. So, cry away. I mean if you really feel like a "sissy" after crying, you can always go ouside your house and punch a random stranger in the face to balance it all out. Whatever works.
Thieves Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Aw. Guys are kind of cute when they talk about crying. Alright, I'm off now. Really.
smudge21 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I remember a night out with a good friend after the break up. All went well but the realisation that I was back to being single and trying to force myself to have good night (mixed with alcohol) just meant I let loose with the tears during the walk home. There's been a few other times, like when I realised it was totally over and that hit me. I'm used to bottling things up most of the time which often leads to them building up, which is never good.
Buttercup84 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Guys , let it all out ! screw what others think , if you want to cry do it. You will feel a lot better for it. My ex cried the first time when he dumped me , and he likes to think he is a big macho man. If a man shows some tears once in a while , I find it really sweet.
Buttercup84 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Aw. Guys are kind of cute when they talk about crying. Alright, I'm off now. Really. I know right ? kind of cute. Aw
Beachgirl8 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I could probably make you cry Well this at least made me laugh. Not cry though.
Buttercup84 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Well this at least made me laugh. Not cry though. God , I must be either slow or naive for not knowing what he meant with that. Haha.
melenkurion Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I find it pretty hard to cry in any circumstances, even family bereavement I don't always. This certainly isn't because I am not feeling it. I suppose years and years of "boys don't cry", not to mention being smacked for crying, all that makes it really hard to cry. I cried maybe once in my breakup, and a little bit at my Dad's funeral.
alphamale Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 In relation to break-ups. I'm not talking about situations like a family bereavement or stuff like that. I think about my break up a lot and feel a lot of sadness, like an aching hurt feeling I think everyone is familiar with but I can't really cry over it, it feels kinda like 'cos I'm a guy it's not normal to because I've got used to holding things in for so long. I mean you can't really get some of your friends round and hug them and have a cry over it . I also find myself quickly thinking to myself that I should be ignoring it and not being 'weak'. Sometimes I think I really want to just cry over it though like girls do . since i usually do the "breaking up" I generally don't cry over broken relationships. i have cried over other things in life that are much more important than chicks.
Ross MwcFan Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I find it so bizarre that so many guys think it's unormal or that it's weak to cry.
alphamale Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I find it so bizarre that so many guys think it's unormal or that it's weak to cry. in the proper situation i don't consider it "weak" for a man to weep
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