sadprincess Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Hi! I'm new. It's been 4 days now. But no "NC"...(just learned the meaning of it...thanks to responses from another thread). Here's the situation. I'm asian, he's middle eastern. My parents are cool with it. His parents are uncool. We've dated for over 3 years. Due to different jobs, we've long distanced for 3 months. His job gives him an average of 4 hours of sleep and has stressful job. He and I got in argument because his comments are short and "lifeless". He blames lack of sleep. Then all of a sudden he brings up, "because of my parents, we can't have a future, its' been bothering me." so we break up. So do you think he met someone? cause why now? i confronted him and he said there was nobody. is he lying? do guys lie? (or girls?) lie just to spare my feelings? is it the job that's stressful and i wasn't making his life easier by picking fights? cause we've gone thru this whole interracial couple convo before, but why now? he keeps saying he's stressed and tired. ugh! i think he's met someone. cuz why would you just breakup with someone all of a sudden? i told him i hate him. i told him he abandoned me (because life's been hard on me--work, loss of family). i'm angry. sorry long story. although no one knows of my situation per se, i want to know what "guys" are thinking.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 (edited) Well princess I read you story and honestly if I loved a girl, I would never ever let my family dictate who I can or cannot be in love with or with. That's just me. The job situation is very possible but hey at least he tried to stay in contact with you instead of giving you nothing, god knows I would be tired as hell with only four hours of sleep a night but I wouldn't break up with my girlfriend over it. I do not know the man but I am willing to bet you were right about him meeting someone else, though has he been showing any other sign of suspicious activity/behaviors? Yes guys and girls will lie about meeting someone else to save their own guilty asses. I know my ex-fiancee met someone after 4 days of the break up, found this out via her friend which said my ex-f literally said she met someone else and who he was and what he does, I confronted her about it and she called me so many very nasty things because I caught her and still lied about it. The sudden break up was kind some similar to mine, but again, you are right no one that loves you would give up that easily and so suddenly. You have every right to be upset at him for just literally abandoning you when things were hard, that's just cowardly. Edited October 5, 2011 by Rorschach64
Author sadprincess Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 he has no time to "go out"... because of his job. but who's to say he hasn't met someone at work. so idk. he's a good looking guy, charmer, sweet, yet feisty and demanding (which girls probably find "attractive"). even when we were at school, girls threw themselves at him. but he liked me for some reason (i'm what people say "cute"(that annoys me)...but not "hot"). anyways, with long distance, i'm sure he can sway. i'm soooo angry! we still have been texting back and forth, but my texts to him are of anger! he keeps saying he's sorry...but he hasn't tried to fix it. saying sorry and saying i'm going to make it up to you is totally different! i don't want his guilt! i hate him. so much. i can puke. But thanks for your response. i'm sorry you were in that situation. girls can suck as much as guys. its very hurtful, whether she lied or not, she's with someone new so soon, it like burns! people should have some decency.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Well I honestly think you should stop talking to him because it won't do you any good especially for moving on and if he wants to make it up to you, he can pull his head outta his bum properly and put REAL effort in to the relationship and work on it instead of giving up. Save your anger because he doesn't deserve it, NC is advised for healing and moving on. Who knows if he found someone else or why he really gave up, but he can't appreciate the relationship or you if stay in contact anyway, so give him what he wants by leaving him completely alone. Also what he has been saying to you is to try to ease his own guilt. Trust me on this. Plus sometimes these things turn out to be blessing in disguises, you won't see it now obviously but down the line you might. Also in respect to the decency comment, if someone loved me or you they would not have done these things to us but clearly our ex's actions are counter indications of this.
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