shay9290 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 hi everyone iv been in a relationship for about a year now and i have a boyfriend that dont think its ok for me to hang out with other guys as friends do u think thats ok? and while we on the subject he always go threw my phone is that normal or am i tripn i aint never really had a boyfriend that do things like this...in my eyes i would say not a heathy realationship what about u?
Pierre Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 hi everyone iv been in a relationship for about a year now and i have a boyfriend that dont think its ok for me to hang out with other guys as friends do u think thats ok? and while we on the subject he always go threw my phone is that normal or am i tripn i aint never really had a boyfriend that do things like this...in my eyes i would say not a heathy realationship what about u? Hanging out with friends of the opposite is ok if you are with a group of people. Hanging out one on one with a male friend is not a good idea. Some men are not comfortable with that. Checking your phone is unacceptable. Did you cheat on him?
Author shay9290 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Hanging out with friends of the opposite is ok if you are with a group of people. Hanging out one on one with a male friend is not a good idea. Some men are not comfortable with that. Checking your phone is unacceptable. Did you cheat on him? not intill recently but it always been like this arre whole relationship
Pierre Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 not intill recently but it always been like this arre whole relationship If you cheated on him I can see why he is jealous. But, you are saying he was jealous before you cheated. I guess that made him more insecure and distrustful. If you already cheated on him. Why don't you leave him and try the other guy?
Cracker Jack Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Yeah, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.
Author shay9290 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 If you cheated on him I can see why he is jealous. But, you are saying he was jealous before you cheated. I guess that made him more insecure and distrustful. If you already cheated on him. Why don't you leave him and try the other guy? i made a mistake and he is who i wanna be with but its just hard with no trust or him being insecure all the time
Author shay9290 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Yeah, it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. so what would u do?
Cracker Jack Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 How old are you guys? And how far did the cheating go?
Author shay9290 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 How old are you guys? And how far did the cheating go? im 19 he is 21 and it was only one time thing....so basicly a 1nightstand
Cracker Jack Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Had a feeling you were around that age. I know you really want to be with him, but can you handle the lack of trust for the long-term? If yes, then I guess you'll find a way to make it work--but if the answer is no, then you know the relationship will have to end. I can only see the relationship getting worse at this point, but you never know.
Pierre Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 im 19 he is 21 and it was only one time thing....so basicly a 1nightstand It is difficult for your bf to understand why you had sex with another g and then youuy and then you tell him you want him. That is very confusing to him. If you had sex with the other guy with the intention of ending the relationship things would make more sense to him. Since you already cheated on him the best thing you could do for your bf is to leave him. This may be initially painful for both of you, but I think it will be best for the two of you. Do you really want to be his gf after you cheated on him?
Author shay9290 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Had a feeling you were around that age. I know you really want to be with him, but can you handle the lack of trust for the long-term? If yes, then I guess you'll find a way to make it work--but if the answer is no, then you know the relationship will have to end. I can only see the relationship getting worse at this point, but you never know. hmmmm yeah thats what im scared of...it geting worse
Pierre Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 hmmmm yeah thats what im scared of...it geting worse You said the bf was jealous before you cheated. Were you giving some signs you were about to cheat? Can you understand his concerns with your male friends? Did you cheat with one of these male friends?
Author shay9290 Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 You said the bf was jealous before you cheated. Were you giving some signs you were about to cheat? Can you understand his concerns with your male friends? Did you cheat with one of these male friends? yes he was doing that befor i cheated and no i was not giving him signs no i didnt cheat with one of the male friend i talk to on a daily basis and he do this because other girls ****ed up in his past relationship
Pierre Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 yes he was doing that befor i cheated and no i was not giving him signs no i didnt cheat with one of the male friend i talk to on a daily basis and he do this because other girls ****ed up in his past relationship You cheated on him and prior gf cheated on him. So he is in very rough shape and probably cannot trust any woman. Are you really sure you want to stay with him? His jealousy will drive you insane. However, if you want to stay with him there is something that could work. You need to be transparent at all times. You need to show him you are trustworthy 24/7.
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