Kacie Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 We broke up 2 months ago, we dated over a year and I was his longest relationship and apparently the first one he felt actually loved in. By the end I'm pretty sure he suffered from GIGS and just decided to end everything after spending an amazing weekend together. He told me so many things that weekend I NEVER saw this break coming. I heard such things as 'I'm so lucky to have such a great girl', 'i know I'll never find someone as good as you' etc. He broke up with me a day later over messaging. He 'apparently' cried for a week straight. OF COURSE I pulled the dramatic begging and pleading, everything.. then I found out 2 weeks later he was already dating a new girl.. I started NC and big surprise they broke up a little later. A week and one day later after I initiated NC he contacted me, obviously I thought too highly and wanted to get back together, at one point he agreed, then backed out again, said he wanted to be "friends" though..... YA RIGHT. When ever we hung out he'd hug me, cuddle me, even want to kiss me.. He just didn't want commitment. So after realizing this I told him I wanted to talk to him, he'd refuse, always say hes busy.. so i took action... i I showed up on his porch late one night and talked to him, the thing he always disliked about me was how shy I was, It was hard for me to talk to his family. So I told him I had changed that about myself, actually took his advice.. I told him what I thought he really needed to work on also, commitment issues, how he had turned to smoking, drugs and alcohol after our break and how selfish he was being to himself and people around him. I told him I could never be his friend, I hugged him and told him to take care of himself and walked away. A lot of thing I would of never been able to do before.. The catch is, before I walked away he told me that we would talk again, I retorted with Only if he changes will I talk to him, He told me well give me a year like it took you, I told him I'm not waiting around a year for him. But even after that he told me again that we would talk again.. Confused much.. He said he had no plans of dating now or hooking up, which I don't necessarily believe. He even told me that night I went to his house that I was the best thing to happen to him and I was the best girlfriend hes had. Ever since the break he drinks more then he use to, parties a lot more, and is hanging out with a bad crowd. Do you believe he'll be back for me? If so, how long approximately? Did I end NC good enough? I know I can't wait around for him, I need to heal and I have to try to move on, but is there and hope in my future. We had an amazing relationship. Best of friends, always together, so close, barely fought. Thank you for any suggestions or comments.
musicSaves12 Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 To be honest, I wouldn't wait around. I am dealing with more or less the same thing. I was with a girl for 2 years we were best of friends. However, that might be all we were in the end. She is seeing someone, or getting to know this other guy better, right now so I am moving on. You should do the same thing. Do the whole no contact thing and start to heal. It will be hard but in the end you just need to be yourself and be strong.
TheDovic Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Yeh you did great! It's likely he will be back, but at this stage it might be too late for him. GIGS according to more experienced members on the site usually ends approximately between 1.5 - 2 years, although I've read in other places it can last a matter of months! He obviously still loves you but seems to be very confused (as all with GIGS are), so don't end his confusion by being there when he needs you. Try your best to move on, better yourself etc... and a while down the line he'll come crawling back. At this stage maybe you won't want him though
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