futuregopher Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I was NC for 17 days then broke it this past sunday. I'm gonna give her a call to ask if she wants to meet up for coffee or something at the mall this Saturday. It's a 3.5 hr bus ride but whatever. So scared..... :x
lalalandman Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 (edited) eh, I hate having to see this. The newly broken who can't resist the NC period. You're scared? Then you're in no state to be contacting her. Trust me. Edited October 4, 2011 by lalalandman
Author futuregopher Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I'm scared of her saying no.
TheDovic Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Do me a favour. Wait 24 hours and if you feel the same then call her!!! Deal???
Author futuregopher Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 Do me a favour. Wait 24 hours and if you feel the same then call her!!! Deal??? I said the same thing to myself Sunday night. Thanks though!!!
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Don't do it, she isn't worth your time and effort if she threw you away, plain and simple.
barriob Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I need help. well my ex broke up with me out of the blue. and we hung out a couple times after and then says he still liked me but then the next day he says he doesnt wanna be tied down to me. I text him and he ignores me and then he writes back a couple days later.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Barr, You are thread jacking but I'll answer anyway. I will tell you what anyone else on this forum will tell you, if your ex loved you and wanted to be with you they wouldn't be doing this to you and they would BE WITH YOU! The end, go NC, if he comes back fine but he will 100% tell you that is his intentions and no tip toeing around. Accepting anything less is just saying 'Hey, I am a total and complete doormat which you can walk all over despite my feelings, emotions, and other stuff.'
sadprincess Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 What's NC? sorry i'm new (and newly heartbroken). To answer the post, because i'm in this situation the same as you, i'd be tempted too.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 No contact. Some block everything and anything from Facebook to cell phone numbers, I personally just unfriended my ex-fiancee on facebook and removed her from my cell but she is still on my yahoo IM and mail list, but I do not talk to her at all unless she talks to me but I don't hear from her ever anyway. Bottom line for most of the fresh broken up individuals you probably should block it all. Trust me also with contacting your ex's it will only serve to hurt you and/or cause them to hurt you, so no angry e-mails or trying to be friends just dump them in the trash like they did to you.
Author futuregopher Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 What's NC? sorry i'm new (and newly heartbroken). To answer the post, because i'm in this situation the same as you, i'd be tempted too. NC just means no contact. No calls, texts, etc. I guess if you just broke up, it might be hard but try to stick to NC.
Author futuregopher Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 I just called her. It rang one and a half times and went straight to voicemail. I called a second time and same thing happened. Oh well...off to the campus bars now...I'll send her an email in a couple of days asking for coffee.
ffw Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I just called her. It rang one and a half times and went straight to voicemail. I called a second time and same thing happened. Oh well...off to the campus bars now...I'll send her an email in a couple of days asking for coffee. Congratulation on becoming a doormat guy.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 You live and you learn gopher! I hope you have a great night and don't beat yourself up over this too much, you are only human after all Oops didn't see the e-mail part, Gopher please do not e-mail her, I am begging you for your own sanity and dignity! DO NOT! The phone call going right to voice mail means she don't want to hear from you, it is over man Stay NC and start healing.
Author futuregopher Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 I could be justifying myself but I think it's possible her phone was off or something...or did she block me? The only good thing about last night was that this hot girl slapped my butt. I'm gonna go on a mad streak and get every pretty girls' number and ask them out for coffee. I'm not scared of rejection anymore.
Philosoraptor Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I could be justifying myself but I think it's possible her phone was off or something...or did she block me? The only good thing about last night was that this hot girl slapped my butt. I'm gonna go on a mad streak and get every pretty girls' number and ask them out for coffee. I'm not scared of rejection anymore. You were screened and she hit the end call button. It doesn't ring if the phone is off.
immitable Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 gopher you want her because you can't have her and it is like an addiction. YOu need to possibly revert the situation. Cool down don't contact her, delete her from everything, go out and have fun. You need to have your power back in order to think straight again. Best of luck
samphs Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Not true, sometimes it does ring once if you are on the train, but I still think its a bad idea to call her, you should ease you way in a little more. the faster you go the more you risk getting rejected.
TheDovic Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 There could be a million reasons buddy, but in reality it's likely she blocked you. She didn't call back... Right?
musicSaves12 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I just called her. It rang one and a half times and went straight to voicemail. I called a second time and same thing happened. Oh well...off to the campus bars now...I'll send her an email in a couple of days asking for coffee. Don't do it man, I'm dealing with the same thing, even if she was beautiful or whatever go out with any other girl even if it is just a friend you've known for awhile it will make you feel better then trying to talk to the one that hurt you.
M2155 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I just called her. It rang one and a half times and went straight to voicemail. I called a second time and same thing happened. Oh well...off to the campus bars now...I'll send her an email in a couple of days asking for coffee. I'm 98% sure she saw your number, hit ignore and then turned your phone off. I've watched this in action and been on the receiving end MANY times- it's a bad justification for the e-mail. She probably does not want to talk to you right now, she needs space too or is trying to move on herself. You have not been NC very long and pushing/wishing for something she probably is not ready for or interested in right now. Sorry that happened to you.
geegirl Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 She didn't call back... Right? That should be a big enough reason for you not to call her.
Author futuregopher Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 So I didn't call her again or send the email. She gchated me about 2 minutes ago. I thought I blocked her on gchat but I guess not. Here's how it went down. Her: Hi you called me yesterday? me: oh hi yes her: what's up me: i am going to the woodfield mall this saturday b/c I need something and the mall here doesn't have the store. I was wondering if you wanted to meet up for coffee or something her: sorry i can't. I will be busy. I have been working 60-70 hour weeks. It's busy season. Last monday I went to work at 7:30 and got home at 10:30. me: okay her: just really stressed with work me: ouch 5 minutes later(I was supposed to ask for my shirt but I forgot) me: Hey I thought we could meet up so you could bring my shirt too but since you are busy, can you mail it to me? her: I'll have to send it to you itll have to wait a bit by the time i get off work post office is closed ill do it next weekend or something is that okay busy season me: that works thanks a lot her you should just remind me my work is very stressful so i may forget End of conversation. I didn't respond back. I honesty did want to go to a store there because the mall close to my campus doesn't have the store. But I just found out that the online store does free shipping I am going to treat myself to an early birthday gift
lalalandman Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 dude comon. Using a t-shirt to try and meet up with her? She's setting you up to contact her later. Most likely she won't respond promptly, and keep you on the hook just that much longer. Unfortunately, you can't go NC until you settle things with this t-shirt. I would just tell her "You know, don't worry about the shirt. I'm good on that. Good luck with your busy schedule." Then go NC. Boom roasted. Do this asap.
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