ccnaboy2000 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 (edited) Sorry if this is a little long, but its a followup to my rebound thread. It's how it all ended. This is word for word how it ended. Think there's still a chance? I'm in a little disbalief that all of the sudden she is soooo happy with this new guy. (sorry a little long but I thought I'de tell the whole story) Just wanted some input. Maybe I blew it with no contact? September 3rd she'd been distanced havent seen her in a week. I invite her to the beach. (still together) Her: I wanna go! If i get home from krystals in time I'll text you. I'm going to her house only for a little. *never called* Sept 4th: Are we not together anymore? I was just thinking about our relationship. And I wanted to try and work on it n hang out more but I'm not gunna be able to with school and everything and I dont feel like were on that level anymore. Even though I really want to be. What do you think. Me: I think we have some things to work on but the choice is yours, just know that I love you and I'm always willing to put in the effort. Her: I know you try. Theres just something not there anymore that was before. I feel like we are just friends and it hurts. I dont know, I care about you so much. Maybe it's just not right right now. I dont know what it is. I love you. I just can't put in enough effort into it right now and its not right. Me: If thats how you feel and not being together will make you happy than thats what needs to be done. I'm sorry I wish you the best of luck sweetheart. Her: I hate it when you end it like this. It doesnt have to be so cut off. I still freaking care about you. I just dont have time and don't wanna drag you around. I GO NC Sept 8 Her: You have mail from the DMV - 9:12am Her: <calls @ 11:34am> Her: Do you want it or do you want me to throw it away? - 11:45am Sept 11 Her: I know you dont care but I think about you everyday n it hurts that we can't be together. Sept 15th Her: I drove by your house cuz I was gunna come to your door but I figured i'de get it slammed in my face. - 10:11pm Her: Or I can just show up - 10:22pm <MY NAME> can you really not talk to me? I dont understand why you cant be civil with me - 10:30pm Sept 17th - 11:57pm Sends me an email telling me how its so hard for her not being with me. She is so stressed out and just got back from driving around town crying. Sept 18th night - Sept19th Her: Go out to eat with me - 8:35pm Shows up at my doorstep unannounced. I let her in we watched a clint eastwood movie and we didnt talk about the relationship. She texted me when she got home. Her: See it wasn't that bad hanging out with me was it - 1:11am Me: It was okay Her: Aww your mean. I really liked seeing you tonight. I think we can do this more often and it will help us work on things slow. - 1:23am Me: I don't know I have too much on my mind right now to think. Her: Why because we hung out. Dont think about it. just let it happen if its going to be. I hate when you shut me out. It's nicer having you in my life wether we be together or not right at this second. Me: I know, just know I always tried to make you happy. Her: I know, you do make me happy and I would do anything to make you happy n I know sex is part of it and I'm not sure if I can do that, which is why I left too. Cuz I know you wanted sex in the relationship. I enjoy being close to you and cuddling but when it comes down to sex I just cant do it. I don't know why. Its not you, your great at sex, its just something I have to work on. Me: Then would you consider going to counselling together? Her: I dont know what it is. Maybe we should both go together? I think it's because I dont think I am sexy or anything about myself for that matter. Me: Well just know that I cannot be your friend because I feel for you more than just a friend. Her: I cannot not have you in my life. ButIguess if I cant be 100% into us then I don't know. I dont want to say yeah I want to be in a relationship when i'm not 100 percent there. But I dont want to say no because I dont know whats wrong with me and I'm sorry I put you through this cuz you dont deserve it. I dont want to lose you. When I can't talk to you it kills me. I've driven past your house more than once wanting to come in. Or hoping to see you you. Me: Im sorry you feel that way, I do hope you find out what it is and find happiness. Goodnight. NC RESUMES (ONLY STOPPED BECAUSE SHE SHOWED UP!!) Sept 22nd - I found out she is now in a relationship with this new guy. (Only been 3 days) Sept 28th - I break NC ME: Hey how are you? I just got back from Santa Cruz and though I'de see how you are doing? Her: Good just have the flu. Me: That sucks, well make sure you take some theraflu that stuff works wonders. I had a question are you seeing someone now. Her: Yea my gramma set me up on a date, but we are just friends. <--- Thats a lie!!!! Me: Ahh okay cool. That was fast. I wish you the best in your new relationship and I hope you finally found your happiness. Her: It's not a que. I told you we are just friends. I still care about you soo much. (Lied again) Me: I know you still care, and I do to. I just want whats best for you even if that means you're with someone else. I'm happy for you. Her: I want the same for you Her: I really wish you were mad it would be a lot easier. I know I'm hurting you and it hurts me even more doing this to you. Me: Well at least your happy. Take care Her: It's so hard to be happy when you feel like complete Sh*T Her: I'm sorry. Something just got lost along the way. I still care about you. Something just changed a while ago I don't know what it was. I've always been honest with you and still am. We can still be friends, but I know you wont take that as an option. Havent talked to her since Edited October 4, 2011 by ccnaboy2000
Ajax Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 You could turn that into the Great American Novel. It's just so classic and played out. My question is, why do you still have hope? The girl is stringing you along like a little puppy, and despite your rounds of NC, you're letting her. She wants you in her life on her terms. That doesn't help you one bit. Take back your power. Stop letting her have her cake and eat it too. Disappear.
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 (edited) You could turn that into the Great American Novel. It's just so classic and played out. My question is, why do you still have hope? The girl is stringing you along like a little puppy, and despite your rounds of NC, you're letting her. She wants you in her life on her terms. That doesn't help you one bit. Take back your power. Stop letting her have her cake and eat it too. Disappear. I indeed have disappeared since then. I only broke NC that one time at the end I guess in a way to make her feel like I'm completely fine with it. Should I have slammed the door in her face then? I guess I was just looking for an outsiders point of view if it seems there was anything still there. I mean it felt to me in the course of a week there was a dramatic shift in her. Edited October 4, 2011 by ccnaboy2000
TheDovic Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Ok dude, like I said earlier (at least I think I did lol), she loves you but the attraction has been disappearing, hence lack of sex life (trust me). You can change this though following the advice I gave you earlier. She's also not sure about the break up yet as she keeps contacting you and clearly wants to be part of your life still. People are going to disagree with me on this one, but I know you want her back, so whilst she's still confused you need to do the things I emailed you and I honestly believe you'll have a fighting chance. PS, as stated earlier, the other guy is just a rebound. If he wasn't she wouldn't be in contact with you so much! PPS, well played for the most part since the breakup, you made her chase you rather than the other way around. You've been a man so far dude, genius effort!!!
wilsonx Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Ok dude, like I said earlier (at least I think I did lol), she loves you but the attraction has been disappearing, hence lack of sex life (trust me). You can change this though following the advice I gave you earlier. She's also not sure about the break up yet as she keeps contacting you and clearly wants to be part of your life still. People are going to disagree with me on this one, but I know you want her back, so whilst she's still confused you need to do the things I emailed you and I honestly believe you'll have a fighting chance. PS, as stated earlier, the other guy is just a rebound. If he wasn't she wouldn't be in contact with you so much! PPS, well played for the most part since the breakup, you made her chase you rather than the other way around. You've been a man so far dude, genius effort!!! Dont agree with this post in any way shape or form. She keeps contacting because she is one of those people that does not want to let go. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. My ex seriously stalked me hardcore online, doesnt mean she wants me back.. she used her boyfriend + her dogs name in the email address she used to trick me. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t300198/
TheDovic Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 (edited) Dont agree with this post in any way shape or form. She keeps contacting because she is one of those people that does not want to let go. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. My ex seriously stalked me hardcore online, doesnt mean she wants me back.. she used her boyfriend + her dogs name in the email address she used to trick me. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t300198/ Ha, I knew you'd disagree Wilson! Mack will be shouting at me next too lol Edited October 4, 2011 by TheDovic
mike588 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Ok dude, like I said earlier (at least I think I did lol), she loves you but the attraction has been disappearing, hence lack of sex life (trust me). You can change this though following the advice I gave you earlier. She's also not sure about the break up yet as she keeps contacting you and clearly wants to be part of your life still. People are going to disagree with me on this one, but I know you want her back, so whilst she's still confused you need to do the things I emailed you and I honestly believe you'll have a fighting chance. PS, as stated earlier, the other guy is just a rebound. If he wasn't she wouldn't be in contact with you so much! PPS, well played for the most part since the breakup, you made her chase you rather than the other way around. You've been a man so far dude, genius effort!!! Are you implying that if he wasn't a rebound she would'nt be contacting him?
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