Beachgirl8 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I don't know what my problem is. I met a guy last weekend while out with some friends- he's a friend of a friend. I'm supposed to be going out with him in about 2 hours and I am not excited at all. He's cute, has a job, I enjoyed talking to him, everyone says he's a great guy, we have been texting and talking on the phone for a few days... I feel like canceling and I have no idea why. I don't know if I'm burned out on first dates from my recent OLD disasters, or if I can just sense that he might actually be good for me and I'm STILL not ready to even contemplate a relationship, or if I'm just a spoiled brat. I know it's just a first date and I should just go and have fun with no expectations. I'm going to try my best to do that. I just wish I wanted to go. At the moment I think id rather stay home and watch tv by myself. I'm pretty sure I'm nuts.
zengirl Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I've felt like that before plenty of first dates, even good ones. It's hard to get in the mood for the uncertainty after a long day. And it's a Tuesday! Who feels jazzed to go out on a Tuesday? (Someone hipper than me, I guess.) But I say: Go, and maybe it'll be great. Maybe it won't, but it's still better to go. I don't think those feelings, before you've even had the first date, have anything to do with the prospect. It's probably just the mood you're in.
ScienceGal Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I know exactly how you feel! But, just do it! And you are 100% right about not having any expectations. Just be yourself and see how it goes. I hate dating! Grrr. But, it has to be done if you're ever going to meet anyone. Just remember it's about you. And there is no pressure since it's a first date. Reflect on it after. If there are no sparks, then don't go out with him again.
Author Beachgirl8 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I've felt like that before plenty of first dates, even good ones. It's hard to get in the mood for the uncertainty after a long day. And it's a Tuesday! Who feels jazzed to go out on a Tuesday? (Someone hipper than me, I guess.) But I say: Go, and maybe it'll be great. Maybe it won't, but it's still better to go. I don't think those feelings, before you've even had the first date, have anything to do with the prospect. It's probably just the mood you're in. Thanks! I know you're right. It's kind of like going to the gym. When I don't feel like it and I go anyway, I'm always happy I got off my butt and went. So whatever happens, happens. I'm trying to talk myself out of my mood. Perhaps a hot shower will help
Author Beachgirl8 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I know exactly how you feel! But, just do it! And you are 100% right about not having any expectations. Just be yourself and see how it goes. I hate dating! Grrr. But, it has to be done if you're ever going to meet anyone. Just remember it's about you. And there is no pressure since it's a first date. Reflect on it after. If there are no sparks, then don't go out with him again. I dislike dating in general too... I guess it's a necessary evil. Wouldn't it be great if there was a system where hot guys just materialized in your living room?
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