Mixman Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Hello Forum........ This is my second longterm relationship 10+ years. I was married before for 10 years and have 2 amazing sons from this women. Problems started when she became controlling with money, household chores etc. I met my current partner through my oldest and her youngest starting kindergarten together. They lived only one steet over in our subdivision. Both our families would get together for little things swimming, movies etc. Our spouses became friends as well. We decided to start going out for coffee after we dropped the kids off for school. We then started realizing that both our partners were control freaks. Needless to say we split up with our past spouses and became common law spouses to this day 10 years later. Her ex was charged with sexual interference of a child during their marriage, it was her nephew. I was not made aware of this until we were too deep into our relationship. He is now a homosexual. The problems as I see now started way back. She has 2 children from her ex a girl who is now 14 going on 40 and a son 17 who is lost in life. My boys are now 15 and 12. She would treat her daughter like she was the goose that laid golden eggs right from the start. There is nothing this girl can do that will phase her mother. I can take some of the blame for not setting boundaries for this girl.All the other children seem to get it she doesn't. She clings to her mother for everything. Sits on the kitchen floor when her mom cooks, waits outside the bathroom for her mother to finish. We play cards all the other kids go do something she is right there sitting with us. I mention something and I'm the bad guy. So what has caused this break up. Is that when my sons were here for summer vacation me and my youngest were playing xbox. We used a game that belonged to my stepson. My youngest beat me and went to tell his siblings when my stepson told him to turn it off and we shouldn't have used it without his permission. My son came down to tell me and I got quite pissed off. Went up to talk to my stepson and my step daughter all of a sudden starts in with "It's not your game you had no right playing it". I couldn't believe my ears the mouth and disrespect from a 14 year old. I then asked her if she would like to move out she said she didn't want to live here anymore and she doesn't care. Within an hour her mother was home and she started packing and said she wants to sell the house. So at this point the house is up for sale and her and the step kids who live here don't talk to me. I am on a disability pension have barely enough to survive. I work under the table anythime I can for cash. She has a life time job with the city and can live comfortably.... I pay half the mortgage.. All the cable, hydro and gas bills every month..
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