mintchocolatechip Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Hi everyone i'm in my 20's and i met a guy online. We have been talking for a few weeks now and he told me he wants to meet up. He doesnt have a job right now so he said he cant afford dinner or something. So he keeps suggesting i meet him at this park we have in our town with a bunch of trails or we meet at his house. Well both sound kinda sketchy to me! I said id meet him at his house but now i'm re-thinking it. I feel like he could really be a good guy, i dont know, but i dont think meeting him at his house is safe. Years ago i met a guy online (i'll call him the old online guy) (we met a resturant) and a month into our relationship he was very abusive and even tried to take me out of our town against my will. So im feeling very cautious about this new online guy. I feel like if i tell this guy that i dont wanna meet at his house, he'll say i'm making excuses and he'll act like i'm a gold digger for wanting to meet at a resturant or whatever. Is is bad to meet him at his house? Please advice? Thanks so much everyon! This is my first post. (ps: i dont wanna meet at the mall, my ex works there lol)
denise_xo Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Definitely go for a walk in the park or some other outdoor area where there are people around. If this park is deserted, chose another outdoor area. Alternatively, invite him for a coffee somewhere.
CarrieT Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 i dont think meeting him at his house is safe. You are right. It is not safe. Years ago i met a guy online (i'll call him the old online guy) (we met a resturant) and a month into our relationship he was very abusive and even tried to take me out of our town against my will. So im feeling very cautious about this new online guy. Good. Maintain those feelings of cautiousness. I feel like if i tell this guy that i dont wanna meet at his house, he'll say i'm making excuses and he'll act like i'm a gold digger for wanting to meet at a resturant or whatever. Looking out for one's safety has nothing to do with being a gold-digger. Insist on a public meeting somewhere. If he can afford to be online and looking for a girl, he can afford a cup of coffee somewhere. Is is bad to meet him at his house? Please advice? Yes, it is very bad to go to someone's house you do not know. Don't do it.
Cee Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 You could suggest a coffee date and make it your treat. That way you can change the plan and he can't use no money as an excuse. If he gives you any sort of hassle, then you know he's not worth it and cancel altogether.
Cypress25 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Don't go to his house. For the love of God. Unless you're in the mood to get raped and/or killed, meet him in a well-lit public place. You don't even have to spend money. Just sit in a coffee shop and chat. The fact that he's even suggesting this is a red flag. He knows perfectly well that you could go out to a public place without spending money, but he's trying to convince you to meet him in an isolated place instead. Ulterior motives, anyone?
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