mike588 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Hello, For those of us that have been dumped wether it was a rebound relationship or not , has/does anyone here coutinue to ask yourself or wonder if he/she really ever did loved me?? I guess this question pertains to those in mostly a short term relationship ,, 3,, 6 months? I know if you've been in a long, long term relationship sure there was love for you there or it would'nt of lasted that long! Most of you know my situation, after approx. 1 year she dumped me for her ex. I am doing much better thanks to strict N.C.,, joining a gym, connecting with friends etc. and am way down the road in my healing thanks to alot of you here!! There is just this one question that I can't seem to shake: Did she ever really love me even though I was her rebound guy??? All my other feelings/ questions have been answered except for this single damn one!! I know it's over,, it's DONE and I'm not going back if she ever asked. I guess this question just burns in my head because of the betrayel I feel.I want to know if after 10 months together did I just waste my time with her, was there ever anything in her heart or was my love for her in vain? I think it would be comforting for most of us to know if the answer was yes,,and not make the heart ache so bad,, not just a meaningless one way love,,,,,,,, it would seem to justify our effort we put in. Again for those who know my story don't beat me up to bad,, I'm only alittle over 2 months into healing and have come along ways in that short amount of time and hopefully in another 2 months I won't even care. I know only she can answer that question,,, thanks for listening,, gotta write this and get it out of my system. Anyone else feel this way,,, or just wanna know also???
Mar1neOne Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I have thought about it, yes. But you have to stop, because it doesn't matter. I don't care anymore if she loved me. All I know is that she doesn't now or she wouldn't treat me the way she has.
FeelingSmall Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I have thought about it, yes. But you have to stop, because it doesn't matter. I don't care anymore if she loved me. All I know is that she doesn't now or she wouldn't treat me the way she has. Bingo! It doesn't matter. If someone is capable of treating you as horribly as our exes did... The only answer that matters is no, not in the end. It's irrelevent how they felt earlier on.
Thieves Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I have thought about it, yes. But you have to stop, because it doesn't matter. I don't care anymore if she loved me. All I know is that she doesn't now or she wouldn't treat me the way she has. Exactly. We can sit here and talk about the past all day, but that doesn't change what's happening in the present. No matter how much you believe someone loved you in the past, if all they do now is hurt you, string you along, deceive you, or make you feel less than you are... then the question of if they loved you or not is irrelevant. Someone who truly does wouldn't keep doing those things.
Rorschach64 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Exactly. We can sit here and talk about the past all day, but that doesn't change what's happening in the present. No matter how much you believe someone loved you in the past, if all they do now is hurt you, string you along, deceive you, or make you feel less than you are... then the question of if they loved you or not is irrelevant. Someone who truly does wouldn't keep doing those things. Yup, listen to this smart person.
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