zengirl Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I would never call myself a neat freak by any stretch, and I don't even mind tidying up after someone on occasion. Though I won't tidy up for someone else because someone else expects me to. I routinely load or unload the dishes (which are usually 1/2 mine as well anyway since I stay over frequently) at my BF's house when I'm over because I happen to think of it before he does. I don't mind running a load of his laundry and have done that a few times and hung up the hanging stuff. He cooks a bit more than I do, as we usually cook at night and I'm a morning person. I tend to clean in the mornings. I'm terrible with cleaning floors, though if someone gets the vacuum and mop out and ready for me and puts it all away for me, I'm happy to (it's that part that I hate) and I hate folding laundry --- the hanging stuff, I'll get right up, but the bits that need to be folded or just sorted, like socks and undies and tank tops, often sit in the "clean laundry bin," the extra I have for this habit, and get grabbed from there. I will clean the bathroom, but not excessively. My mother believes it should be cleaned weekly; I'm more a twice a month person. I never ever make my bed, unless I'm going to sit on it or something. I think making the bed is a terrible waste of time. However, I also almost always do my dishes immediately. I clean up as I cook. I don't leave things lying around the living room. I organize things frequently enough. So, I'm a mix myself. I would never say my BF was a slob, but he's not a neatnik anymore than I am. He's probably a bit slower to chores than I am, but not by a huge margin. He does leave his stuff around a lot more than I do, but that doesn't bother me at his house and I doubt it would if we lived together. Clutter doesn't really bother me. I'm not super prone to it myself, but I barely notice it. Dishes that routinely piled up for more than a few days would bother me because they're in the way, but my BF has let the sink get pretty full to where everything he owned was either in the clean dishwasher or dirty in the sink before. That didn't bother me. I suppose it would if it was EVERY time, though. Being busy is one thing; being too lazy to take 20 minutes in the kitchen when you're not busy would bum me out. It's more about the attitude. The disposable silverware, plates, and such would REALLY bother me though, but that's less a lazy slob thing and more a I Hate Killing the World With Plastic thing. I'm not sure I could date a guy who didn't have those re-usable grocery bags, let alone one who used throwaway silverware. That stuff really bums me out.
veggirl Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 :lmao: Nah, personal hygiene and environmental tidiness are not related in the slightest. I bathe and brush my teeth twice a day - bf has excellent personal hygiene as well. Also, it's probably a sample bias, but the majority of the hyperintelligent people I know are messy to some degree. They just get distracted by abstract concepts that live purely in their head and neglect their surroundings, and easily tire of mundane repetitive routines. so you aren't lazy, you are too smart to clean. K.
make me believe Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Ugh slobs are such a HUGE turnoff for me. I would absolutely not date one seriously. I dated one messy guy casually for awhile, and I HATED going over to his house. Even when he would tell me all excitedly that he had "cleaned" for me, there would still be dirty dishes in the sink, the bathroom was never actually clean for my standards, and his piles of junk were basically just rearranged into new piles. It grossed me out and made him look immature and lazy. So unattractive. Plus, I think it's important to chose a partner who has similar living habits as you do so you do not waste your relationship having petty fights about somebody refusing to put their damn dishes in the dishwasher. My husband is super clean and it's one of the things I noticed & appreciated every time I went to his apartment when we were dating. And using plastic cutlery and paper plates for everything? That is BEYOND wasteful and lazy. You really can't just put a freakin plate in the dishwasher when you're done with it? Or wash it quickly and stick it back in the cabinet? Come on..
Els Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 :lmao: so you aren't lazy, you are too smart to clean. K. You do know that you're just adding one more supporting datapoint to my already biased sample re: the correlation between intelligence and tolerance of mess, right? Please, learn to read.
Els Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Oh, btw, I was always curious, because I've never had a dishwasher. I was told that they're not really worth the investment because plates that go in there aren't completely clean when they come out, unless your meal is something completely unsticky like a salad and sandwich. At least, bf claims that when he worked at a coffee place, the employees had to scrub plates before they chucked them into the dishwasher. True/false? Do you still need to scrub your plates sometimes if you get a dishwasher?
denise_xo Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I'm extremely uninterested in routine tasks of cleaning but do it 'when it's necessary'. Like Elswyth I don't often pay much attention to it, especially during the week when I'm always super busy. I draw a line with left over food or outright dirt lying around, I can't stand left over food and I want the dishes rinsed but don't mind them stacked next to the sink for a while (not in it since we only have one sink). During the periods I'm by myself, I often do the dishes once a week because I hardly generate any. We both occasionally eat food out of a can so I don't have a problem with that - it's important to share proper meals together once in a while, though. My partner is tidier than I am, so he usually does the daily tidying of the flat and I do more of the bulk cleaning on weekends. Elswyth, I think it depends a bit on the dishwasher, but a lot of food stuffs (like eggs) will often need a bit of scrubbing off first. I don't have a dishwasher and I've never missed it because when you're one or two people it doesn't really save time IME. The only time I've missed it is if I've had lots of people over for dinner.
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