tigressA Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 What would you do/think/feel if, on your wedding day, your newly minted husband got super-sloppy drunk and spent the entire night dancing with his best female friend? (A coworker told me this is what happened at a wedding she went to over the weekend with her fiance. The bride, she said, was trying really hard to play it cool and act like nothing was wrong.) Mostly, I'd hope I had the sense to not marry a guy who would act like that. If I were her though, it would be very difficult for me to not go to the courthouse the next day and file for divorce.
Author tigressA Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I feel so terribly sorry for the woman. I have sympathy, and yet I don't. I don't know the couple; my friend didn't either (her fiance is friends with the groom). But that sort of behavior just does not bode well for a happy or long-lasting marriage. He has no sense of boundaries or respect, and she is too passive. She has likely witnessed these antics from him before and thought he'd change after marriage. Well honey, look what happened on your big day...
Els Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Agreed. However, I almost always feel sorry for the victim (in this case, her), even if they theoretically should have known better.
Afishwithabike Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I would feel sorry for her and at the same time wonder if he didn't show signs of poor boundaries earlier in the relationship. Such behavior doesn't come out of nowhere. He must have exhibited inconsiderate behavior before and she turned a blind eye to it. We have a secretary here who has a husband like that. She's very passive. He has cheated on her several times (that she knows of!).
shayla Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 He did not wake up on his wedding day and become that way. He was that way long before she said I do. She knew what she was getting and chose to put herself in that mess anyway.
Cee Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I'm guessing that's how the relationship has always been- him drinking a lot and her playing it cool (aka- enabling). If I were at that wedding, I would have gotten saddened by the spectacle and left early.
2sure Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I would wonder why no one in the Brides family didnt take the female friend aside and say: I know this is not your fault, but could you disappear so he stops humiliating the bride at her wedding?
Kinder-Horror Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I would feel horrible if that were my husband. To include that in your memory every time you look back on your wedding? Sad.
Recommended Posts