Jonnyy Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Title says it all. For those who dont know my story, gf of almost 2 years broke up with me aug 1st due to GIGS. Been NC for about a month. I had my facebook deactivated for like 20 days. I just reactivated it a couple days ago. When i reactivated it i blocked my ex, blocked her new guy, and defriended one of her roommates. Yesterday i got a friend request from the roommate i used to be friends with on fb. I ignored it. Today i now have a friend request from her other roommate that i was never friends with on fb and never really talked to. What is your opinion of this guys? Is my ex trying to get her roommates to be friends with me just so she can see what im up to? Do i add her roommates? I really dont want to add them. I just want to distance myself from my ex as much as possible right now. Give me some input guys.
Tayla Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 You are an adult, capable of making healthy choices. Make one on this matter and move on in life.
wilsonx Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 You are doing exactly the right thing, keep it up. Dont question yourself
MIK1000 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Yep sounds to me like it's pretty obvious she has asked her room mates to add you so she can view your profile and see what's going out in her life. I have deleted all my ex's friends and family members so there's no way she can see my profile where as I have the power to see her's if I go on my friends account (Not that I do) and I reckon that probably bugs her. Don't let them in.
TheDovic Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Don't add her! Make your ex wonder what's going on in your life. You've become a mystery to her dude and this is a lot more attractive than her knowing what is happening in your life!!! (Might even teach her a lesson by making her hurt)
HappyFlower Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Why are you even thinking of adding them if you never really talked to them anyway? You have no obligation whatsoever to be polite by accepting the add - I only accepted my ex's friends on fb out of politeness to him, I was never really friends with them, in fact I didn't like 2 of them at all. So didn't think twice about deleting them. If you were actually friends with them, then put them on a limited profile so they can't see certain things
Mar1neOne Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I have a different take... Is it possible that this friend of hers may like you? How much if any did you ever talk to her? Who knows, her friend may now feel like you are open for the taking... just saying
Author Jonnyy Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 Just an update. Ignored/deleted both requests. Got another one this morning from both roommates. I literally laughed out loud when deleting the requests. Im digging the whole mystery aspect that TheDovic was talking about
nini Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Just an update. Ignored/deleted both requests. Got another one this morning from both roommates. I literally laughed out loud when deleting the requests. Im digging the whole mystery aspect that TheDovic was talking about Well done
Diogenes Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 The other possibility is they might be interested in you. This week I had my ex's best friend, the one that helped my ex in her decision to leave me, sending compliments on my FB profile shots of the new "Buff" me. It's a strange world...
PositiveNegative Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Jon, I think that your ex is definitely trying to keep tabs on you. Good job ignoring them.
Author Jonnyy Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I really dont think they are interested in me. I guarantee they arnt interested. One of them is the one that broke up with like my best friend because she was crushing on someone else and due to GIGS. And the other roommate i literally have NEVER said a word to. I mean she went to the same school as me and my ex but i never have talked to her. I doubt shes interested. I guarantee its just a plan my ex has to try and keep tabs on me and see what im up to which is exactly what i dont want. I dont want her to know anything im doing.
Author Jonnyy Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 Update!!!! Roommate requested me...AGAIN. And sent a message saying "Why can you not add me?" Guys what do i do? Do i reply and say nicely that i don't want to be connected to my ex anymore or do i just ignore? Advice is GREATLY appreciated
Author Jonnyy Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I need any sort of input as soon as possible guys. So i guess this is a bump post. But still please help on this one
PositiveNegative Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Jon, I say you stand your ground and tell her that you would prefer not to have your ex know anything about your life. I find it so odd that they would request this many times. I've considered joining facebook again. If I did I would definitely block anyone that my ex would hang out with.
lalalandman Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 dude don't give them any response. are you kidding me?
Author Jonnyy Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 The only thing is that i dont want to come off as an ass. Im definitely not going to accept her but what do you think about just replying to her message saying something like "nothing against you" ?
lalalandman Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Dude you think it's just going to stop there? You're just opening the door with a response, and once they get their foot it, it's likely they'll try to stir your emotions. Just don't say anything. As a matter of fact, don't ignore their requests. Just leave it. That way they can't keep requesting you.
Author Jonnyy Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 Just got a text from her, "are you joking me _____?" I just really wanna say something to her.
PositiveNegative Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 This is so confusing. Why is this chick getting so pissed that you aren't facebook friends with her?
Author Jonnyy Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 I have no idea, Im so torn. I dont want to seem like an ass. But honestly, she only talks to me when she wants to find out info. I just wanna say something to let her know that im not being just a blatant ass just to be one and that i have a reason. But idk....
lalalandman Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Wait is the roommate or the ex texting you?
Author Jonnyy Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 The roommate!!! haha Btw she sent me another friend request
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