lance.dark Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I asked a good friend of mine out on a date last week. She said yes. We talked on the phone last night. She said two things that struck me as odd and made me kind of rethink going on a date with her. 1. She doesn't want to do this if it's going to just be a two week thing and then I move on to the next girl... (that's a fair objection but I've never done this) 2. She said she hasn't thought of me as anything other than a friend. To #2 I told her that we shouldn't do this if she doesn't want to; we can go back to being friends and just set this aside easily. She replied that she does want to go on a date. I don't understand. If she hasn't thought of me as anything other than a friend, why does she want to go on a date? Especially when her biggest concern is our friendship dying?
Cee Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 The bottom line is that she accepted a date with you. With that in mind, I interpreted her statements to be insecurities from past hurts. Her comment about only thinking of you as a friend may have meant that she wouldn't allow herself to like you. Because she thought she was strictly a friend to you. Based on only those comments, I don't see red flags. At least, not now.
Author lance.dark Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I guess that makes sense since she knows I'm in an open relationship with another girl (who is abroad for a few months). Any advice for me to help her stop thinking of me just as a friend? This will, believe it or not, be her first ever date.
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