leoc1973 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 It seems like a lot more GIGS is going on these days with facebook there. I know this is what happened with my ex. Its just way too easy for guys and gals to make contact with old flames and hit on peoples girlfriends and boyfriends. After the ex broke up with me her friend list jumped way up with lots of guys that she hid on me. I seen that her friends went up by like 10 people so in the beginning I went through her page to see when she friended these guys and some of them went back as far as a year. I don't know if facebook is a blessing or a curse. I guess it shows you what kind of person you have and when they leave you then good riddance. I have had lots of girls look me up on facebook and I always told them sorry I was in love. I guess I just wish I had a girlfriend that did the same. I think when you get people that like the attention from the opposite sex the let this into their lives and then they let it build till all of the sudden the I am not ready to settle down breakup comes up. Sometimes I wish I had taken advantage of when girls tried to reconnect with me because looking back I was telling these girls, "I am in love" and she was telling these guys, "If I can only get rid of my deadweight". But after some thought I can still sleep at night! Anyone else have experience with ex's that let facebook ruin their relationship?
ccnaboy2000 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I agree with what you said 100%. It does make communication and temptation almost too easy. I had a facebook but rarely used it. My ex would be on it 24x7. Couldn't have a conversation with or go anywhere without her checking it on her phone. It didn't bother me just how much guys she had on there, or that she was friends with them. But I felt the level of communication she was having with them was just over the top. Not to mention it would piss me off with all these guys always hitting on her with comments and she would flirt back and say it was nothing.... Well couple days after tellin me how much she missed me and loves me wished we could be together right now she was in a relationship with some shmoe, and it was "official" on facebook. hah. Screw that. I deleted my facebook. No thanks it's a relationship killer.
Beachgirl8 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 My opinion is that Facebook, online dating, online porn and the Internet in general are not to blame- they just facilitate the process of someone who already has doubts, or is unhappy in their relationship, or prone to cheating anyway to explore other options. If you are truly committed to your partner and happy in your relationship, you wouldn't be affected by temptation and could use all of these mediums for good, not for evil.
Hote204 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I have had 2 relationships which fell apart because of FB in a way. First one was a girl came up to me in a nightclub when i was with my boyf and tried to kick me. I found her on FB and sent her a message re the night...and it came out that my boyf had been texting her asking for sex lol. Thanks to FB, i was able to talk to her otherwise i would have never known this. Second relationship was my ex who was forever flirting to extremes on FB and one day he left himself logged in on my laptop...BUSTED! So yeh, i kinda hate it but i spose i have to thank it. It bought things to my attention that i would have missed without it!
Zabs Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Sorry for sounding slow but what are GIGS? Also Facebook? I call it Farsebook...meaning nosey! LOL I deleted FARSEBOOK because of ex aliases! LOL A useful tool however, many manipulate it for other motives. Zabs xx
flitzanu Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 wow, computers and virtual communities ruined your relationship? i suppose it makes sense, since the people involved have no free will and can't make choices of their own. my relationship ended because my ex girlfriend ended it. if it wasn't facebook, your partners would be emailing other people, and before that they'd be calling other people on their rotary home phones, and before that, they'd be meeting them after work talking and you'd never know. just because there is another vessel of communication in the world doesn't mean that your dumb fickle exes have no part in their decision to cheat. quit blaming facebook and start blaming THEM.
Author leoc1973 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I disagree with a few of you. Relationships have ups and downs. During one of the down moments where people do question their relationships in the past the relationship might have survived it and then you go back into another up cycle where you get along and wonder why it was that you were fighting anyways. But with this facebook crap you have all these guys and gals telling your girlfriend/boyfriend the lines like you have options and if I was your boyfriend bla bla bla. I think it just makes it too easy. Don't get me wrong my ex is an attention hog so who knows but I think it puts extra temptation there where in the past things might have been worked out. I am not pining over it because I am quite happy these days I just thought it was interesting. I saw a show on 20/20 and they said that 25% of divorces are directly linked to facebook. I have an aunt who found the old love of her life from 15 years ago and left my uncle. Without facebook I don't think she would have ever looked for him. She seen his picture and all the feelings came back.
flitzanu Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 i just don't see why we want to make it a scapegoat instead of taking responsibility. you had a bad time in your relationship...and some knight or princess swoops in and makes you feel differently? well, i guess i wouldn't want to be with someone that's so fickle that they'd change their mind so easily and throw away a relationship that fast. or is that just me?
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