Coupedriver Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 If you had the chance to ask your ex bf/gf why they cheated..would you..?I know you might not get a HONEST answer but would you ask them anyway.? The chance for me might be coming up..I wanted to ask her.."How could you go through all of those days telling me you LOVE me,kissing me,letting me make love to you and taking you out to dinners and the WHOLE time...you had someone else on your mind.?And do it without any guilt..?!?!!?!" Yeah..I know..I have covered this point before.!! Or just leave sleeping dogs lie.??
wilsonx Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Coupedriver, do you know what they would tell you, here it is when I asked why, "because we were having problems in the relationship" The only problem in our relationship was the guy she was talking to before she cheated on me with him. So in essence, it doesnt really matter.... find someone that wont cheat on you
january2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 If you go down that road, it might lead to you asking yourself "was he/she justified in cheating?" Since I don't believe that cheating is ever justified, the answer to the "why" question is irrelevant.
Chi townD Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 If you had the chance to ask your ex bf/gf why they cheated..would you..?I know you might not get a HONEST answer but would you ask them anyway.? The chance for me might be coming up..I wanted to ask her.."How could you go through all of those days telling me you LOVE me,kissing me,letting me make love to you and taking you out to dinners and the WHOLE time...you had someone else on your mind.?And do it without any guilt..?!?!!?!" Yeah..I know..I have covered this point before.!! Or just leave sleeping dogs lie.?? Moot point because you'll ever get a straight answer or they'll blameshift on you. They cheated because they wanted too. That's the only truth in the majority of these cases.
Author Coupedriver Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 Well if your having problems in a relationship..why not just sit down and talk about it..??!! Doesnt anyone do that anymore..? Why the sneaking around and then telling your EX..and watching them FLIP out..?!?!?? What is the point of it all..??
sun_moon Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 So it is natural to ask why, but you must be wise and cautious. I made the mistake of wanting to know why many, many, many relationships ago - my first love, and you know what, all it did was drive me even more crazy because he said I dont know. I began to look at my flaws and my confidence just plummeted further down, I was obsessive about thinking this girl must be better, or somehow what we had was flawed and he had to look elsewhere, it was a destructive cycle for me, because I was trying to lay blame for something that wasnt in my control. The person I am now, I dont want to seek it out, the whys, its just painful. Instead of why did you cheat on me, my thought process is how dare you cheat on me, or how could you cheat on me? Why is natural, and its good to vent about it, but dont seek out the answer. No matter what situation you are in, you dont need to know why they cheated. Some people in life cheat and it really really sucks but there are others who dont, that is the hope I hold on to.
Author Coupedriver Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 You all are right..I guess it doesnt matter..I NEVER will get a straight or honest answer from her.If she couldnt look me in the eyes and tell me why at first..why would she now.?
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