Cookie1991 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 My boyfriend of three years is in college in his final year were both nearly 21 and im the only person he was with!! and first love and first person to be with, This year he has been going out drinking and doing what he whats and getting pissed , I havent been going out as ive been sick and im finished college.One night he went out and got so drunk and He went out and went back to a friends house and he said nothing happened but i got a text that he kissed a girl but really i confromted him n he said she hoped in to bed beside him and she kissed him!! he keeps saying that and he said after the kiss he got up out of bed and told her he had a girlfriend, but he never told me about it. I broke up with him and i want to get back with him he keeps texting and ringing and apologizing? Any ideas what i can do?
Pierre Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 My boyfriend of three years is in college in his final year were both nearly 21 and im the only person he was with!! and first love and first person to be with, This year he has been going out drinking and doing what he whats and getting pissed , I havent been going out as ive been sick and im finished college.One night he went out and got so drunk and He went out and went back to a friends house and he said nothing happened but i got a text that he kissed a girl but really i confromted him n he said she hoped in to bed beside him and she kissed him!! he keeps saying that and he said after the kiss he got up out of bed and told her he had a girlfriend, but he never told me about it. I broke up with him and i want to get back with him he keeps texting and ringing and apologizing? Any ideas what i can do? In some cultures it is rather common for High School or University sweethearts to get married. Quite often they are both virgins and happy with that. The issue is whether he is going to get older and will want to have sex with dozens of other women. What do you think? Is he a womanizer type player or is he a guy that is perfectly happy with you? If he keeps calling you should take him back. Unfortunately there will always be women around him that want to get laid, so that is a chance you have to take. Do you think there was more than just the kiss? What are your plans after college?
Author Cookie1991 Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 I don't think he is a womanizer never has been but he told me he would always be curious about other women but then he said that he was totally happy with me. if it was a drunken kiss i could forgive it (I don't think it went further). he said he didn't tell me because he didn't want to ruin our relationship or hurt my feelings. well we've planned on getting married moving in together. i suppose its harder now when i have finished college and he hasn't because this is typical stuff that happens in college do you thinks its acceptable to ask him to limit his drinking and ask him not to stay away from home if he goes out to come home to me? i suspose in time i will trust him Thanks
Pierre Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I don't think he is a womanizer never has been but he told me he would always be curious about other women but then he said that he was totally happy with me. if it was a drunken kiss i could forgive it (I don't think it went further). he said he didn't tell me because he didn't want to ruin our relationship or hurt my feelings. well we've planned on getting married moving in together. i suppose its harder now when i have finished college and he hasn't because this is typical stuff that happens in college do you thinks its acceptable to ask him to limit his drinking and ask him not to stay away from home if he goes out to come home to me? i suspose in time i will trust him Thanks He is quite young, however a man in a serious relationship should refrain from activities where he will encounter drunk women. He may be a very nice young man, but alcohol can cause problems when there are horny women around. If he is a virgin type man he is likely not prone to have casual sex with these women, however sometimes there is a lot of temptation. The best thing is to avoid the temptation.
Author Cookie1991 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 So i should get back with him but not let him drink or go out in the future without me? so that there is no possibilities of this happening?
Pierre Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 So i should get back with him but not let him drink or go out in the future without me? so that there is no possibilities of this happening? You cannot control him. However, he should know he is deeply hurting you by drinking around easy drunk women. The temptation is hard to resist when there is alcohol involved.
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