Thieves Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 The more you focus on his life, the more you are going to hurt yourself. Very, very true. Dumpees are so ready and willing to compare their lives to the dumpers'. "Well, he/she is doing this and that. And he's going to do this and that, while I'm here doing this and ugh, it's so unfair", etc., etc. 'Tis not the way to be happy. It's not a race or competition to see who can do better than the other, it's about becoming indifferent to that and just being focused on you. The dumper should not be someone you always measure yourself up against, because if you do, I promise that no matter what you will find some fault in yourself and you'll never allow yourself to 'win'. So yes, try to put your attention into healing and becoming independent from your ex. Remember what you were like before you were with him, and build yourself up slowly to become a better version of that person.
funnyface Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 I'm so sorry, I'm going through the same thing same span of time too (just about a month since we broke up)! Its pretty painful. Hugs
Thieves Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Hi Thieves, nice photo. Is it yours? Unfortunately no, but she has my glasses! They're very lovely. But I guess that just proves how much of a 'dork' I am, ha. And nice photo you have, too. Is it yours?
ffw Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Unfortunately no, but she has my glasses! They're very lovely. But I guess that just proves how much of a 'dork' I am, ha. And nice photo you have, too. Is it yours? Lol...I wish. I read some of your previous posts also. You have a different point of view on topics. I am must say I am impress with your thinking & reasoning on subjects. Keep it up. Cheers....
Thieves Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Lol...I wish. I read some of your previous posts also. You have a different point of view on topics. I am must say I am impress with your thinking & reasoning on subjects. Keep it up. Cheers.... Aw. Well, thank you, Mister Ffw. I'm glad somebody got something out of them.
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