somedude81 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Truth be told this actually is a fear of mine. No offense. I just prefer not to be you in 7 years. None taken. I don't want anybody to end up like me. It's not a happy existence.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 Also, about the whole going to the bar thing, I don't drink. Is that something I should reconsider? Like, is that something that's going to seriously hamper my ability to socialize with women?
ThaWholigan Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Also, about the whole going to the bar thing, I don't drink. Is that something I should reconsider? Like, is that something that's going to seriously hamper my ability to socialize with women? Not really, you can get non-alcoholic drinks. I'm not really a drinker either, but when I'm out I do have a few.
somedude81 Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Also, about the whole going to the bar thing, I don't drink. Is that something I should reconsider? Like, is that something that's going to seriously hamper my ability to socialize with women? From what I've heard, modern dating is basically now 1. Go to a bar or party 2. Meet girl 3. Both of you get drunk 4. Go to your place or hers and have sex 5. Decide if you want to date It's booze, sex, then maybe date.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 From what I've heard, modern dating is basically now 1. Go to a bar or party 2. Meet girl 3. Both of you get drunk 4. Go to your place or hers and have sex 5. Decide if you want to date It's booze, sex, then maybe date. Actually...given the content of the majority of threads on here you're probably right.
lino Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 From what I've heard, modern dating is basically now 1. Go to a bar or party 2. Meet guy 3. Both of you get drunk 4. Go to your place or his and have sex 5. Log onto love shack message boards and ask if it was too soon to f*ck him. 6. Decide if you want to date It's booze, sex, then maybe date. That's better! 1
Teknoe Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 49, you wrote this in the thread about "not my time to date right now; gotta work on my own life first" I was at this phase the last few months and probably still should be. Problem is, with the warmer weather this time of year I start to get jealous of all the people I see walking hand in hand, etc. Knowing that I've never got to experience that and likely won't for a few more years is starting to make me go insane. As long as you're obsessing and making posts on Dating or other similar forums, it's truly not out of your spirit yet. And if it ain't out, it'll always stop you from being who you can be. And you're only 23. Goodness. You're still a pup. Trust me, take care of your career and growing up as a solid man... the rest will take care of itself.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 8, 2012 Author Posted March 8, 2012 49, you wrote this in the thread about "not my time to date right now; gotta work on my own life first" As long as you're obsessing and making posts on Dating or other similar forums, it's truly not out of your spirit yet. And if it ain't out, it'll always stop you from being who you can be. I think if I got to kiss a girl just one time I'd be able to let it go for a while. Sometimes a guy has needs, you know? And you're only 23. Goodness. You're still a pup. Trust me, take care of your career and growing up as a solid man... the rest will take care of itself. Well I don't feel like a pup. All my friends (save for one guy) have all got girlfriends (some are even married). I just feel so behind right now and to be honest I feel a bit left out.
LnliHrt Posted March 8, 2012 Posted March 8, 2012 Having a walking vagina in your life, won't make you happy. All your friends with walking vaginas, will brake up, get cheated on and get STD's.....be happy you are not taken by the dark side of the vagina
Bob_Funk Posted March 10, 2012 Posted March 10, 2012 (edited) Dating gets harder with age in general; it makes no difference when you start. There's this common misconception that getting girls is a skillset that can be learned, when actually it's almost entirely based on looks and social status. And when is your potential for looks and social status at its peak?Between 18 and 25. OP, obviously do what you can to maximize your looks. As far as meeting girls... well, it's not that simple. Playing the numbers game online and in bars/nightclubs is a recipe for failure. Your best bet is to try to break into some social circles (or use the ones you already have), and try to meet girls that way. I'm not saying it'll be easy or quick, but it'll give you the best chance of success. Your situation is extremely common btw.* Edited March 10, 2012 by Bob_Funk typo
jobaba Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Dating is harder as you get older for a few reasons: 1) If you get old enough, people in your age range will start to get married and your friends will stop socializing as much. This will limit the amount of available single women you meet. 2) You are behind the game, so you are not sure what you are looking for. In a sense, the 'one' you are looking for will only be found when you've gone through others who are 'wrong' for you. Of course, you don't have to go through tons of women to get to her and some people get lucky and marry the first one. But ... some practical experience helps. 3) The longer you fail at something, the more you convince yourself that is not possible to accomplish. During my dry spells, I have often convinced myself that I would never meet another woman in my life, let alone one that I liked. This is why I try and tell the guys in this situation ... Don't wait until you get your life together to try and find a woman. Go out and do it now. You're not looking for a wife. You're building your experiences so that you can figure out what it is you want later on. I don't care if you're jobless, carless, talentless, and living with your folks. Somebody will date you (probably). At least try. It's good to have some dating experience under your shoulder. You feel more of a part of society and less of an outcast. When you're out with co-workers or friends of friends, and they start talking about women or relationships, you can chime in instead of sitting in the background and feeling awkward. It will improve your confidence just knowing you've been able to get a woman and it WILL improve your life. Take it from someone who has been in your guys' shoes.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 11, 2012 Author Posted March 11, 2012 Thanks jobaba. I guess I have to just get my self esteem in order and realize that maybe women aren't going to be worried about my inexperience. I guess I just feel so behind sometimes.
sid3 Posted March 11, 2012 Posted March 11, 2012 Dating gets harder with age in general; it makes no difference when you start. . And when is your potential for looks and social status at its peak?Between 18 and 25. Not true. Maybe for guys that get fat or loose their hair. That would be my guess. I wouldn't trade the way I look at 40 for when I was 18-25. No way.
Red Arremer Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Dating gets harder with age in general; it makes no difference when you start. There's this common misconception that getting girls is a skillset that can be learned, when actually it's almost entirely based on looks and social status. And when is your potential for looks and social status at its peak?Between 18 and 25. Not entirely true. It's a skill set that can be learned, AND it's based on looks and social status.
Eclypse Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I imagine it would get harder, from a psychological viewpoint. You keep setting yourself up for rejection that you don't learn how to properly communicate with the opposite sex. I think what one should do is not be actively looking for a partner, rather just keep your eyes open. It often happens when you least expect it.
Ross MwcFan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 I'm not really afraid of rejection, I just sort of expect it and figure it's a waste of time to try anyway. Sort of like "well I'm going to get rejected anyway so why bother?" As far as not being interested in dating, that's just a recent development. I mean for the longest time I've been worried about my lack of dating experience. Recently I've just stopped caring about it and my desire to have a girlfriend (even my sex drive) has just dropped like a stone in the ocean. I honestly have no idea why. It's very weird to me. My friend was telling me again about this girl he thinks I should meet (a girl he's been telling me about for a while now) and I just couldn't really muster up any kind of desire to meet her. I have no idea though if this will always be the case. I mean I could wake up tomorrow and be interested again, I really don't know. I've gone the same way. I don't have much of a sex drive, and I kind of feel indifferent about dating/having a girlfriend/relationship/sex.
Ross MwcFan Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Dude, I'm sure others have said this to you before but here's the scoop: you're 24, and completely clueless with women. I say screw worrying about employment and all that jazz. If you don't start now, you will wake up and be 27 or 30 and in the very same boat you are today. And things will be even worse. Why wait? Employment could help him with getting women though.
garycoleman Posted March 12, 2012 Posted March 12, 2012 Yes I think so and the older you get the weirder you will seem to be. There is this guy at my work who is 55 yrs old virgin and never been on a date. He is even scared to talk to our hot female receptionist. He puts paperwork on her desk when she is away from her desk in order to avoid seeing her.
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