jolbell Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I attempted to multi-date but I just couldn't continue. The jist of it is, there were 2 guys, one who was really into me (let's call him A) while I was really into the other (let's call him B). B is very good-looking and successful but is in "no rush" to date someone exclusively. We went on a few dates, all extremely fun, but the dates were so far apart I started to doubt his interest level. I'm pretty Type A, so this gave me anxiety at times. Basically, I liked him more than he liked me, it seemed. A is good-looking, a very sincere and loyal guy, great guy I could talk to, extremely eager to please me, calls and contacts me regularly. He gives me no reason to question his intentions; he's made them very clear he wants to be with me exclusively. However, he has what I would consider a low-ladder job in his career and this may or may not change. Last night I agreed to be exclusive with A. I'm really hoping I made the right choice!!! He's an awesome guy but I've never dated someone who is financially "below me." He can support himself monthly but he has debt and almost no savings. He's moving in with roommates to save on rent soon so that he will be able to save some each month. Ugh, guy with roommates. I really value money (the security money brings) but one part of me tells me to overlook this because its better to choose someone loyal and sincerely cares for me. Did I make the right choice by agreeing to be exclusive with guy A instead of keep looking??
Imajerk17 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I'm not sure what to make of these questions, because does anyone really take the opinions of strangers on the internet seriously when it comes to whom to keep seeing? I would not advocate anyone dating someone else who doesn't have his life together though. That is how people seem to keep coming back here. How old is this guy? Did you break it off with B or did either of you just fade away? There are other guys out there.... So I would vote to keep looking.
Cookie1991 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I really don't think its a good idea to base your relationship on money he may get a new job if you like A for everything else and you are just choosing B for his job and money you may have never been happy with him/. If u like A chances are you will have a good relationship if he seems very interested in you but you are not going to be happy if you constantly think about income i assume you have a job to support yourself and if he can support him self what else matters he will more than likely treat you better than B anyways best of luck!!
v.gordon71 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I agree with Cookie1991. You never know what the future will hold. Just because A isn't where you would like him to be financially doesn't mean he will never get there. Being with someone like you, may inspire him. Just because guys like B may make alot of money doesn't mean they have alot of money, or anything else needed for a relationship for that matter. B clearly is not into you, so don't even think about wasting your time. Stick with the one who treats you the best. I say "A" receives an "A" in my book for now.
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