janbaz Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I am 26 and she is 24. We work on same place. She was my first. And I was not on controlling side and being very nice. Coz I liked her. Intence hard crush. As I stated before in my threads I posted here. Even when we are relationship, I came to know her hidden relation too. I was pissed off. A year back, I called her and broke up. But I contacted her back again coz she sent me an empty text after the week of break up. I called her. And showed she should be faithful and good with me. I accepted her, we continued again. But things were never same. I always used to complain her time to me. And she always gave me excuses of being busy at office and home. It was always me who called her. Any how, this story prolongs for 2 years. And they were messy. We never spoke in person coz she hesitated. But she was out with the other guy. Knowing all this, I was thinking to continue with her, coz of one reasone. That I liked her. Distance between us increased. I dindt wished her birthday coz I was not talking to her and didnt get the feel for that. See this thread. And later she send me some qoutations when I didnt wished her. See this thread. 15 days back, she wrote me an email. Contents followed. Hello Havent seen you long time. Where are you? Is every thing OK? Last time I sight you when you were in lunch at cafe. Regards <Her Name> I didnt replied. And the mail is still in my mailbox. I just want to forget her. But whenever I see her or smelled her perfume, it made me week. And that made hard to move on. And I stuck with past memories. I never cause any problem to her. Always motivated and wished her good. I have started a new relation with a girl that I will marry. She is very good. Currently we are on distant locations. And cant see eachother. But the presence of ex around me cause a lot of emotional pressure on me. And I start thinking about ex. I appriciate you guys helped a lot. Breaking up is complex with the first girl you got in your life.
69ways Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I did 40 days of NC and when she called she reached out in a way admitting she cant find a better guy than me but she did not know if she wanted to be with me........ I went back to NC, she text me lately but also ignored her..... Did I do the right thing? I dont know but mine had 8 month to sort things out and she has depression but I believe is good to maintain NC and not contact them when they just txt something like :Are you ok? Let them wonder as we have been wondering many nights and days of where they are and what they are doing. Its not about them but us and you need to concentrate on making it better about you. Basically if you contact them, you give them the sense that you are always there and she can use this to forget you easily. I saw this with mine when in the beginning I tried to ignored her she was panicking and I broke NC, while now I ignored her and she did not react. So do yourself a favour and don't reach out to her, let her really reach out and if she want to be with you, she will show you...... Also you got a girl you will marry but still asking about your ex, you need to do some brainstorming man.........
Author janbaz Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 Thanks 69ways. Every thing is good. But I just want her to erase from my mind. If I resist myself, I know she will persist. I just want to make myself NOT BOTHERING state. Maintaining NC and not replying to her, I feel good on that. I just want to focus on my girl. But the presence of ex shake me. I will make myself stronger, and I will also pray for it. Thanks again. Stay blessed.
gluttonForPunishment Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I did 40 days of NC and when she called she reached out in a way admitting she cant find a better guy than me but she did not know if she wanted to be with me........ I went back to NC, she text me lately but also ignored her..... Did I do the right thing? I dont know but mine had 8 month to sort things out and she has depression but I believe is good to maintain NC and not contact them when they just txt something like :Are you ok? Let them wonder as we have been wondering many nights and days of where they are and what they are doing. Its not about them but us and you need to concentrate on making it better about you. Basically if you contact them, you give them the sense that you are always there and she can use this to forget you easily. I saw this with mine when in the beginning I tried to ignored her she was panicking and I broke NC, while now I ignored her and she did not react. So do yourself a favour and don't reach out to her, let her really reach out and if she want to be with you, she will show you...... Also you got a girl you will marry but still asking about your ex, you need to do some brainstorming man......... Well said!!!
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