Buttercup84 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I've never been into them before I met him . Our last vday together he made me a card , cooked for me and got a romantic French comedy . It was so nice. on our anniversary we went for dinner where we had our first date , he got me flowers and a heart shaped necklace .sigh . So on the 11th of November it will be our anniversary again . I'm dreading it , I'm the kind of person who had those things planned for months . I decided to buy a nice dress , get done up and go to the ballet that night and for dinner . It's a romantic atmosphere being at the Sydney opera house with the beautiful view and all , but I don't want to stay home and feel **** . Plus it's a Friday and I always get sad on weekends now . Will anyone else do anything on special days ? How did you manage them ?
HappyFlower Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I try to totally ignore them to be honest. We split 3 weeks before our 1 year anniversary, and my birthday is the same date the following month. We had massive plans for both those things. Obviously my birthday I have other, great plans now. The 1 year day I just went about my day, making sure I kept busy with things for me. I think doing anything special, especially romanic-ish things, just emphasises the fact you're not doing it with your ex. I recently went to an animal sanctury to enjoy the sunshine for a day out. I thought I was doing great, but when I got there I realised it was 1 month to the day we broke up (he had a big thing about anniversaries, and bought me flowers on every month), and I'd without thinking gone to a place that we would have loved to go together. It was very hard So do whatever you can to make yourself, but I'd avoid anything with a romantic atmosphere...
dicky_fish Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I'll probably be wallowing on my own this coming Thursday as that would have been our 4th anniversary, and like you I had loads of stuff planned - specifically a marrage proposal. Sorry that's not much help, but I guess you're not alone in your thinking.
broken-and-lost Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 i got drunk and went running in the rain, still had a hangover in the morning but stopped me contacting my ex
carhill Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Will anyone else do anything on special days ? How did you manage them ?I was a pretty 'romantic' guy in my past relationships and marriage but, TBH, and I'm surprised to say this, the same tools I learned in MC to process all this stuff also provided me with the tools to forget it. I just today figured out that my mom died last year the day before what would have been my exW's and my tenth anniversary. I have to think real hard to remember her BD or any other 'important' day. Same for past love interests. Sometimes age can be a blessing. Enjoy your dinner/ballet. Stop at the opera bar on the way and flirt with a few guys. I always enjoy the 'view', both of the ladies and the harbor, from there. Good memories.
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