barriob Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 (edited) I was with my ex for almost 6 months and we were fine. We would hardly argue and i thought we were doing really great and that it was true love. then out of nowhere, he said we needed to talk. so we meet up and he said we were going to work on things. then a couple days later he breaks up with me. He said we needed to work on ourselves and that i was insecure etc... I am so confused... ANY ADVICE?? THANKS Edited October 3, 2011 by barriob
Author barriob Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 uhh so i gave in and text him this message today saying i was sorry and i hope he can forgive me etc.
Kilty Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Sorry nobody replied and advise you not to. However you are allowed one trangression - now you have to leave him alone. What will happen if you dont is that you push him further away and will appear needy and also reinforce his decision to break up. Added to this is you will also lose your self respect and dignity. I know how hard it is to go completely no contact but im afraid you have to. But always remember you are using no contact to get over him and not as a tactic to get him to come back.
Author barriob Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 yeah well this has happened before. i text him and then he ignores me and then sends me a text like a couple days later :/ why is this?
Kilty Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 It's because he has all the power which you continually give him by contacting him. He is in the belief that no matter what happens you will always be there for him and you will always come running back and he can basically reply whenever he likes and what suits him and it wont matter. You have to take that away from him by not only not contacting him but also ignoring any breadcrumbs. So if he contacts you again, unless it's him apologising and wanting you back, you do not reply
Author barriob Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 okay, i understand. i still dont get it why he acts like this with me when i was so nice to him and truly loved him.
LelouchIsZero Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 (edited) Just because you were nice to someone & that you loved them, doesn't mean that they'll return the said feelings. If life was like that, then I doubt this forum would even exist. Sometimes people take advantage of the kindness they receive. Its not "The right thing", but it does happen. Your thread is actually rather confusing, as you're clearly aware that he treated you badly -- yet you still want to be with him. Have some self respect, as if you did treat him nicely & truly loved him, well then its obviously his loss, not yours. Learn from the mistakes you made, if there was any & don't bother with someone like him. Edited October 4, 2011 by LelouchIsZero
Author barriob Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 well he was nice to me throughout the relationship. and then after he broke up with me he started being cold. and he knew i still had feelings for him and he prolly used that gaianst me. He even said i cant get over him, like he thiks he is the best.
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