350bro Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Im 19, male, virgin, almost no experience with girls I was very shy during my high school years and didn't talk to a single girl. I broke out of my shell during my first year of cegep (post secondary in quebec) and made a pretty big social circle. I also started bodybuilding which increased my confidence by a lot too. Drinking age in quebec is 18, so I have started going out clubbing with friends, sometimes in small, or big groups of guys and girls. Out of all the times I've been clubbing in the last year and a half all i got were 3 make outs with girls, thats about as far as my experience goes. I would get a ton of attention at school, but when i would try and talk to these girls they would seem nervous and whatnot so I would just take that as a sign I should leave. Idk but i am clueless when it comes to girls. I was actually approached by girls in high school and during my early cegep years but i was too stupid to profit on it. Now I have a really above average body (5'10 200+lb, not fat at all), dress very nice (brands like prada, gucci, true religion, ect) drive a brand new AMG, go to college and starting my first business, i am confident but not cocky irl, and I get NO approaches and still get rejected in clubs. I see average looking guys pulling hot girls and have no idea how they do it. I am not ugly and have good facial features so i seriously do not know where I'm going wrong. I do talk to many girls but I just cannot tell if they are interested or not. And flirting is very hard for me...just never know what to say. I am getting so frustrated i am considering altering my hormones to completely kill off my sex drive so i just won't care anymore (i am 100% serious). My parents are always asking my when ill be getting a gf and many of my friends think I pull girls like crazy... not true. I really wish girls would take some initiative in approaching but I get none now. Any advice?
TooAccepting32 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Do you think you might come across as being too desperate? How do you approach girls? What do you say? I'm often a wing woman for my guy friends and I've seen some pretty unfortunate approaches and initial interactions. Like I could see them digging their own graves. Decent looking guys but jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez approach is really important. If you had a wing woman she could tell you what's going wrong.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Your 19.. just keep doing what your doing and things will change.. Having fun at 19 is more important than getting married.. Time.. at 19 I was no lady killer either.. then I hit my stride about 21-22.
Author 350bro Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 Do you think you might come across as being too desperate? How do you approach girls? What do you say? I'm often a wing woman for my guy friends and I've seen some pretty unfortunate approaches and initial interactions. Like I could see them digging their own graves. Decent looking guys but jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez approach is really important. If you had a wing woman she could tell you what's going wrong. I think i come off as to much of a "friend". not in terms of a white knight, but I think i have a hard time showing them I'm actually interested in them as a potential partner. Im terrible at flirting, can only make small talk Your 19.. just keep doing what your doing and things will change.. Having fun at 19 is more important than getting married.. Time.. at 19 I was no lady killer either.. then I hit my stride about 21-22. Don't want to even think about getting married until my 30s. Don't even want a serious relationship. just dating I do want to have fun, but at the same time i don't want to live my 20s having no experience with women
AHardDaysNight Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I am almost 10 years older than you, and in the same situation. I have no answers.
Author 350bro Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 I am almost 10 years older than you, and in the same situation. I have no answers. yeah... i don't want to be in the same situation in 10 years lol
Eddie Edirol Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 Besides this site, have you dont any research online whatsoever on how to talk to women?
Author 350bro Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 Besides this site, have you dont any research online whatsoever on how to talk to women? that pua stuff is bs all sites say the same thing, but its all easier said than done its just awkward as **** asking a girl to hang out when she won't show she's interested like I'm doing a group project with a girl id be interested in, we talk often about school and other stuff but i have no idea if i should ask her out or not, if she says no it would be awkward seeing her later its all just way too confusing and complicated...
Eddie Edirol Posted October 6, 2011 Posted October 6, 2011 That pua stuff works, but you have to get the right stuff that explains the psychology of it all. Until you research that, or start approaching women on your own through trial and error, you will never learn how to deal with women. Its not easy, at least at first, its always awkward, but until you read up on what to do, you'll be lost forever. So go back and do more research, and figure out how to do it.
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