Kage111 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 So it's been about 8 years since my last real "first date," so I'm a little out of practice... So I could use all the help I can get or ideas for what to do? I usually hear something along the lines of doing something small, during the day, like a lunch, only problem is the only time she is free is Thursday afternoon. So is dinner and a movie too much for a first date? Or am I blowing this out of proportion?
Imageiko Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Dinner and a movie seems like a terrible first date to me. How can you get to know someone when you're sitting there watching a movie in silence for 2 hours. I'd much rather meet for drink and get to know someone. If it's during the day you could meet for coffee then if its going well go for a walk afterwords.
oaks Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 So is dinner and a movie too much for a first date? Or am I blowing this out of proportion? A movie is a poor idea if you want to get to know someone - better pick something where you can talk. Dinner is fine, but lots of people do simpler/shorter (and cheaper) first dates by just meeting for drinks in a café or pub. If the date is going really well there's always the option of 'upgrading' a drinks date to a "are you hungry? let's get dinner!" date.
coolheadal Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Skip the movie just go out to nice quite joint to have something to eat. Find a nice booth to be at away from the crowds if possible. Next head over to your SUV or car and sit and talk it the best way to go about it. Or even drive over to the beach at night park throw some coins in the parking meter or get that parking pass for UK and some USA cities now use that sort of system. Just be yourself with that new girl or guy. Just enjoy what you have and see how it goes. Even if you break some rules of the first date only you will know it..
Author Kage111 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 That definitely makes sense about the movie. I'm most nervous about this because I barely know her and I'm guessing it would be incredibly awkward sitting next to her for almost two hours not talking. Haha... I don't know why I didn't think of getting drinks, that seems like a pretty good idea, especially considering how shy we both are, we could both use some social lubricant. Only problem is I wish I knew of nice quiet places like that... I've been single so long, the only places I actually know to get a drink at are loud, smelly clubs, so I guess it's time to do some research.
EasyHeart Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 A movie is a poor idea if you want to get to know someone - better pick something where you can talk. Dinner is fine, but lots of people do simpler/shorter (and cheaper) first dates by just meeting for drinks in a café or pub. If the date is going really well there's always the option of 'upgrading' a drinks date to a "are you hungry? let's get dinner!" date.Listen to Oaks!!! First dates are actually easier when you don't know the other person very well -- it means you have EVERYTHING to talk about. Remember, you already know she likes you or else she wouldn't have accepted the date. Now turn on the charm and make her melt!
brokendreamz Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Just go grab a coffee, keep it informal and relax. Don't do food - you can usually tell within the first 30 seconds wether there is attraction there, and if there isn't - you really won't want to be forced in to 2 courses!! Coffee, just a coffee - see if you like each other then you can always arrange to meet up again or go off for a walk etc. I would also suggest (if you like her) that you end the date when the going is good, don't let it go on too long, leave her wanting more! Seems to work for me!! Good luck
EasyHeart Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Don't do food - you can usually tell within the first 30 seconds wether there is attraction there, and if there isn't - you really won't want to be forced in to 2 courses!!Why would you ask someone out if you aren't already attracted to them?
oaks Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Why would you ask someone out if you aren't already attracted to them? Because they had lucky photos in an online profile and the reality doesn't seem as good? (and that can happen without any dishonesty, as I've found a few times)
brokendreamz Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Because they had lucky photos in an online profile and the reality doesn't seem as good? (and that can happen without any dishonesty, as I've found a few times) This ^ And it's bloody frustrating when that happens!
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