reimeivn Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I think this will be an interesting thread so that people can talk about NC. For any of you who hasnt been doing it yet. The ex broke up with me 5 months ago. I was blindsided. Bottom line, I could not get along well with his one group of friends, and he did not treat me right. He has some issues also. He is not very normal. We go to the same college. So people started telling me how he had been asking about me a lot. I ve been hiding for a while and that bothered me no matter how hard I hide he still finds ways to pop up. I did NC for 5 months straight right from day 1. But I am tired of my friends telling me about he wanting to know this and that and that he hates the fact that I am not cool with the breakup. It is my business right, he didnt love me, he doesnt understand. So I unblocked him, sent an email. Said I dont hate him, dont worry about that, we are on good terms so I hope nobody will talk back to me otherwise. And that did give me a bit of a relief, I dont feel scared anymore. But it does make me wonder if there will be an email back, and that takes time away from me. Also I do feel sad about the entire situation, not like crying sad but deep inside sad. So if you are thinking about breaking NC, make sure that it is because: 1. you cant avoid the ex, like me 2. its been a significant time passed and your heart skipped a beat for someone else already. And remember that it will still be sad. So if you dont have any regret you need to pour out, dont do it.
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Reimeivn, Thank you for the tip. They receive contact but their dead space between the ears can't rethink, a message and respond ! what have we picked as our lovers ? You and I we're raised by good mother's that taught us to be caring, kind, giving, considerate people. We fell in the hands of rude, self thinkers ! They enjoy having us around, or in their phone, or computer. I recently let my Ex know by text that I have a nice man from the South that I'm seeing, which is partly true as I met such a man on a dating site but have not yet met this man in person. He doesn't care what I do but my brusied ego wanted to let him know I was dating out there. My reminder of, I'm alive and doing well. So go on about your school year and I hope a new one turns up where you are. But a kinder better mannered man deserves YOU ! Queen of Heaqrts 10
Author reimeivn Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 i keep thinking that i should not care but the ex came back to my life has been hurting me all over again. i dont know why people like to lecture me on how to live after the breakup. people want me to be a certain way. people ask me why am i not normal yet? well this is my normal self. with a broken heart. why dont people ask him why doesnt he just leave me alone?
HollyHoliday Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Although we all go through breakups, what people don't understand is that every person and situation is different. You are your own person, and you will cope with this in your own way, reimeivn. Great advice on NC...there are a lot of people on the forum who work with their exs or have children, so your advice is spot on. If you can't avoid them, like in your situation, it can be worth it to at least send some type of final notice or email putting water to the fire, saying that things are fine between you and that you should both move on. Good luck, keep on going.
antz2411 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 friday is coming up in two days! i say you hit up the bar and get blasted drunk.
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