Daniel1313 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 So, this girl and I have been dating for about a week. A few nights ago we went on our fifth date and had an awesome time together: we went to dinner, walked around town, and then made out on the beach. We agreed to be boyfriend/girlfriend and then I walked her home. Literally, an hour later she texts me saying that she can't be in a relationship right now for certain reasons she'll share one day, but she still likes me and wants to get to know me. Since then, she has blocked me on Facebook, refuses to answer my calls and texts, and failed to attend a club meeting that we're both members of. So, what does her behavior mean? Why is she avoiding me all of a sudden? Why would she block me on Facebook when I know she likes me in return?
FitChick Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 She doesn't want to have sex. Maybe she is a he.
Cracker Jack Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 That's odd. Blocking you seems a bit drastic. It does sound like she's hiding something, tho. Could be anything. Hope it isn't what FC is suggesting.
Art_Critic Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I'll bet she got back together with her BF since they were on a week break from each other.... or...... Her BF came back from vacation..
TheSingleGuy Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Daniel, my friend, you have a lot to learn about women. You violated the foremost rule of dating women: Never, ever, ever, under any circumstances, don't you EVER show them more interest than they show you. Period. Don't you ever do that again. Never show her more emotion than she shows you. Most women agree this is unattractive. Asking to be her boyfriend is very beta. Driving a long distance to see her in the beginning is beta. Calling & texting too much is beta. Saying I love you first is also very beta. You might not get blown off for doing any of these things, but you certainly aren't gonna generate more attraction by doing any of these things...therefore, never do them. If a girl is into you, she'll be into you. And if she is, you can sit back and wait for her to be the one to do all of these things first. In the mean time, keep getting numbers and seeing other women. And that is totally fair. Fact: They get repulsed by men who seek exclusivity early on and say so. So date other women until she makes an issue of it. The f***'ed up thing about women is, they are actually more attracted to men who already have women and have other female options. So go get those numbers, pursue those other women and when you are out with them it'll kick her sixth sense into gear. Trust me on this, just do it.
Imajerk17 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 (edited) My first thought was that a week was too early to be pushing to become exclusive. My next thought was that it is on HER to be the one who wants exclusivity. By suggesting it after a week, you didn't even give her a chance to wonder about you. So I agree a bit with what TheSingleGuy said. I'm wondering if she thought about what happened when she got home from your last date and cut and ran. BUT I think what Art Critic said is quite a possibility. As in she has a boyfriend, or if an ex reappeared. So it's maybe 50-50 between her feeling smothered by you, and there is just someone else. That said, the way she is handling things is very poor. But that is the nature of women---they hate awkwardness and feel it even more if they are at fault, so it is their nature to cut and run like that, just to get away from it. Edited October 3, 2011 by Imajerk17
Shaun-Dro Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 My first thought was that a week was too early to be pushing to become exclusive. My next thought was that it is on HER to be the one who wants exclusivity. By suggesting it after a week, you didn't even give her a chance to wonder about you. So I agree a bit with what TheSingleGuy said. I'm wondering if she thought about what happened when she got home from your last date and cut and ran. BUT I think what Art Critic said is quite a possibility. As in she has a boyfriend, or if an ex reappeared. So it's maybe 50-50 between her feeling smothered by you, and there is just someone else. That said, the way she is handling things is very poor. But that is the nature of women---they hate awkwardness and feel it even more if they are at fault, so it is their nature to cut and run like that, just to get away from it. It's really good to see some "real" men in here, like myself, speak the truth about these women. They always want their cake and to eat it too. They are not used to nice, decent men because their daddies were never kind to them when growing up. Or, they never had a father. Different means to the same end. When you're nice and considerate to them, it can't generate attraction for the fact that they aren't used to that kind of behavior, so they take off, which is the easier route of not having to deal with their emotions on it. When you're a bastard to them one minute and then a flirt the next, they can't understand why they can't get you off their minds. Go figure!
Cypress25 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 As a woman, I always wait for the guy to ask for exclusivity. I wouldn't expect it after a week (that's too soon), but if he didn't ask for it after 1-2 months of dating, then I'd assume he didn't want it and I'd walk away. I wouldn't be interested in a guy who expected me to take the initiative on everything. That sounds beta to me, waiting for the woman to take the lead and move the relationship forward. Alpha men go after what they want. That said, 5 dates in one week sounds like a lot. Maybe she bailed because you were seeing each other too often and she felt like she was losing her freedom. In the beginning, you want to space out the dates a little more, like once or twice a week.
TheSingleGuy Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Cypress, If a girl really falls for a guy, and the guy is still seeing other women, sure, logic says she'll dump the guy. Problem is, what women say they want and what they respond to are two very different things. If you're in love with the guy, you won't be able to walk away. You'll tell him you love him, you'll bring up exclusivity, you'll do all those illogical things that you say you won't do. I've seen women do this. Besides, if she's feeling "true love", what woman would just walk away from "true love" so easily?
Cypress25 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 True love takes time to develop; it doesn't happen that quickly. A lot of people mistake infatuation for love, but those people are fools. I've been in love before. With a guy that I was in a committed relationship with for 2.5 years. It took me over a year to fall in love with him. He asked me out first, he asked for exclusivity first (after about 6 weeks of dating), he said "I love you" first. Believe it or not, many women are intelligent, logical people. Some of them even have self-control and self-respect.
Paper Roses Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Judging from your post, Daniel, I would venture to guess you and this girl are teenagers, maybe? If she blocked you from Facebook, she's trying to hide a boyfriend or maybe trying to hide YOU from her boyfriend. Girls at that age are fickle, I know, I used to be one. Don't waste another minute on this girl, there are more than enough out there.
Emilia Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 So, this girl and I have been dating for about a week. A few nights ago we went on our fifth date and had an awesome time together: we went to dinner, walked around town, and then made out on the beach. We agreed to be boyfriend/girlfriend and then I walked her home. Literally, an hour later she texts me saying that she can't be in a relationship right now for certain reasons she'll share one day, but she still likes me and wants to get to know me. Since then, she has blocked me on Facebook, refuses to answer my calls and texts, and failed to attend a club meeting that we're both members of. So, what does her behavior mean? Why is she avoiding me all of a sudden? Why would she block me on Facebook when I know she likes me in return? Hi Daniel, I think you are really young, please be careful when you read the comments on this board, there are a lot of bitter people on here who have had some bad life experiences. Do you think she wanted to take things this fast or was the boyfriend/girlfriend thing your idea? It sounds to me that this was moving too fast for her but she didn't know how to say it. She blocked you because she didn't really know how to explain herself. In my experience people that make sudden and rush decisions are the ones that go along with others' wishes without knowing how to slow something down.
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