cmiller Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hi I have a serious girlfriend and I am very happy with her. I have a male roommate (for 3 years) and a female roommate (for one year). My female roommate is mostly quiet, almost shy and behaves totally normal. She does not have a boyfriend or has had one since she moved in. She does go on dates but never more than once or twice with the same guy, and I think nothing ever happens with them. But sometimes she does things that I (and most men) find very hot. Some examples are: wearing something really hot to a party at our place, or wearing a really hot outfit to a date (I saw her before she left), or once at a concert crowd-surfed in a small tube top (I was not there)… she did more things like that. I like her as a roommate and but I am not interested in her. But I wanted to hear what others think about this. I can’t talk to my friends because they all know my girlfriend. I am just trying to figure out what’s going on with her. Thanks C.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 You have a girlfriend! I think you need to move out, if this is troubling you so. You obviously are attracted to this girl, despite her A.) not showing any interest in you, and B.) her being your roommate, you see her every day.
Author cmiller Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 Honestly, I am not interested in her - she does stuff that is very hot - but I have no intention to leave my girlfriend or cheat on her. My girlfriend sometimes tells me that someone looks hot - that doesn't mean that she wants to be with him. My roommate just does these extreme things .... Plus moving out is not an option, I own the place.
KR10N Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 (edited) She's only wearing clothes, it's not like she walks around naked & throwing herself at you. These are outfits she wears out, correct? If you have no intention of cheating or leaving your GF, then don't! You've got a mind of your own & are capable of assessing what's inappropriate; cheating would obviously be a no, no. You're leaving too many details out or exaggerating. What's so extreme about her? Edited October 2, 2011 by KR10N
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 But sometimes she does things that I (and most men) find very hot. Some examples are: wearing something really hot to a party at our place, or wearing a really hot outfit to a date (I saw her before she left), or once at a concert crowd-surfed in a small tube top (I was not there)… she did more things like that. I like her as a roommate and but I am not interested in her. But I wanted to hear what others think about this. I can’t talk to my friends because they all know my girlfriend. I am just trying to figure out what’s going on with her. You're making it seem like she dresses this way for you! Most girls dress up and want to look good before they go out on a date, or just go out somewhere with friends, to a concert or dancing.. Your post makes no sense, since you aren't interested in her and you have a girlfriend, yet you're very curious about her life, what she does or doesn't do with her dates, the way she dresses, where she goes .. Sorry man, but either you DO like her more than you're letting on, a crush maybe or in denial.
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Honestly, I am not interested in her - she does stuff that is very hot - but I have no intention to leave my girlfriend or cheat on her. My girlfriend sometimes tells me that someone looks hot - that doesn't mean that she wants to be with him. My roommate just does these extreme things .... Plus moving out is not an option, I own the place. You mean she is just being herself and you find that hot? Again, her dressing that way has nothing to do with you nor is she doing it FOR you. I really am trying to understand what you're saying? What 'extreme' things? So far what you've listed is sooooo not extreme, it's normal.
Author cmiller Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 We live together, when she goes out I see her and sometimes she asks ”How do I look?” To give you an example (and there are many) a couple weeks ago she went on a date and wore jeans and a blazer nothing under the blazer
KR10N Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 We live together, when she goes out I see her and sometimes she asks ”How do I look?” To give you an example (and there are many) a couple weeks ago she went on a date and wore jeans and a blazer nothing under the blazerShe was getting a guys opinion. Believe it or not the blazer w/ nothing under is a style. It wouldn't be any different if she wore a low cut blouse or a dress. They're just clothes, your analyzing too much. She was going on a date w/ another man, not you. Unless you give us hard proof that she has shown interest in you I won't believe anything you say. Sounds like you have an infatuation but aren't willing to admit it.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Yeah, I agree. You're obsessed with this girl. She is only friends with you. Either ditch your girlfriend and ask her out, or move out and leave this infatuation behind. Your choice.
veggirl Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 You do sound a bit obsessed with this girl, and it's a bit confusing. You are all crazy about the way she dresses, it appears. What does your girlfriend dress like? Maybe you should take her shopping or something...
KR10N Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 You do sound a bit obsessed with this girl, and it's a bit confusing. You are all crazy about the way she dresses, it appears. What does your girlfriend dress like? Maybe you should take her shopping or something...According to OP, she dresses sexy to the point where it's 'extreme'.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Well, you know what they say: it's always the quiet ones. And I'm a quiet girl by nature, so I would know.
Sanman Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I guess I am having a hard time understanding the point of the OP. Many omen can do provocative, sexy things. Many women do that. There is an entire adult industry dedicated to enticing men. As a guy who used to have a hot female roommate, there will always be a part of you that is turned on and even wants to f*ck her. However, if you have a gf and are not going to cheat than just leave those thoughts be and concentrate on your own life. That is what the spank bank is for.
cerridwen Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 We live together, when she goes out I see her and sometimes she asks ”How do I look?” To give you an example (and there are many) a couple weeks ago she went on a date and wore jeans and a blazer nothing under the blazer I'd like another example.
Author cmiller Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 Ok other examples: Several “interesting” outfits she wore when leaving to for a date or a party. Frequently she asks, how do I look? as she is leaving. Once, she went to a concert wearing jean shorts and a small tube top. At the concert she decided to crowd surf, with obvious results (I was not at the concert). We organized a ping pong tournament – mostly an excuse to drink – and she wore a very loose tank top that constantly moved out of place as she played, revealing quite a view. Sorry, I had really no specific question. It is just something that is strange to me and I wanted to see what others had to say – and apparently most people think that is not all that unusual.
Sanman Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Ok other examples: Several “interesting” outfits she wore when leaving to for a date or a party. Frequently she asks, how do I look? as she is leaving. Once, she went to a concert wearing jean shorts and a small tube top. At the concert she decided to crowd surf, with obvious results (I was not at the concert). We organized a ping pong tournament – mostly an excuse to drink – and she wore a very loose tank top that constantly moved out of place as she played, revealing quite a view. Sorry, I had really no specific question. It is just something that is strange to me and I wanted to see what others had to say – and apparently most people think that is not all that unusual. All it says is that she is a c*cktease or a flirt. I have known many women like this. Mostly young ones though. Visit any college campus and I am sure you will see a few carbon copies of your Roommate.
KR10N Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 All it says is that she is a c*cktease or a flirt. I have known many women like this. Mostly young ones though. Visit any college campus and I am sure you will see a few carbon copies of your Roommate. Possibly, or it's just how she dresses. You don't have to be a slim attractive young woman to dress inappropriately. I see a lot of older, heavier women who wear clothes that reveal certain areas of their body & nobody even wants to think about the idea of them being a c*cktease or a flirt. I really don't see how getting someone's opinion on how they look to be considered "flirty". OP would do himself a favor by just ignoring her. It's obvious he's looking more than he should anyway.
Sanman Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Possibly, or it's just how she dresses. You don't have to be a slim attractive young woman to dress inappropriately. I see a lot of older, heavier women who wear clothes that reveal certain areas of their body & nobody even wants to think about the idea of them being a c*cktease or a flirt. I really don't see how getting someone's opinion on how they look to be considered "flirty". OP would do himself a favor by just ignoring her. It's obvious he's looking more than he should anyway. It is that she is wearing a revealing clothing that makes her a c*cktease, not her size or what she asks him. Oh, did anyone say she was slim? A heavier woman can do the same thing for the same purpose. It may just make her an ineffective c*cktease, but a c*cktease just the same. Much like guys in muscle tees or wife beaters, you are trying show off your assets, even if the public has no interest in seeing them.
KR10N Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 It is that she is wearing a revealing clothing that makes her a c*cktease, not her size or what she asks him. Oh, did anyone say she was slim? A heavier woman can do the same thing for the same purpose. It may just make her an ineffective c*cktease, but a c*cktease just the same. Much like guys in muscle tees or wife beaters, you are trying show off your assets, even if the public has no interest in seeing them. Let me get this straight. If I wear a slim fit tee accentuating my curves, that automatically makes me a c*cktease even though I wear the tee because I like the look/color/fit? Wow! I guess I'm just a whore? And I suppose that any girl or woman that was raped while wearing something too accentuating was being a c*cktease?
Sanman Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Let me get this straight. If I wear a slim fit tee accentuating my curves, that automatically makes me a c*cktease even though I wear the tee because I like the look/color/fit? Wow! I guess I'm just a whore? And I suppose that any girl or woman that was raped while wearing something too accentuating was being a c*cktease? Depends on the t-shirt. If you have ample cleavage and the t-shirt has a very plunging neckline or v-cut, then maybe. You can play politically correct with me if you want, but women know about this and judge this more than men. I hear complaints all the time from women about 'inappropriate' clothing on other women.
KR10N Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Depends on the t-shirt. If you have ample cleavage and the t-shirt has a very plunging neckline or v-cut, then maybe. You can play politically correct with me if you want, but women know about this and judge this more than men. I hear complaints all the time from women about 'inappropriate' clothing on other women. lol. I don't have cleavage. And women who are naturally big chested are just asking to be stared at, correct? These women "complain" because they're often jealous of the way the other woman looks. I've had friends be trashed by other women just by the way they looked in mens athletic shorts. Nothing too accentuating about mens athletic wear.
Lucky_One Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 This is sort of creepy. OP, she dresses the way she wants to dress, and it has nothing to do with you. You remind me of the poster who was friends with a girl and her BF, and he used to escort the girl to parties when the BF wasn't around. He was always asking "What does it mean if she asks me how she looks?" or "What does it mean if she wears a tank without a bra?"
AHardDaysNight Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Depends on the t-shirt. If you have ample cleavage and the t-shirt has a very plunging neckline or v-cut, then maybe. You can play politically correct with me if you want, but women know about this and judge this more than men. I hear complaints all the time from women about 'inappropriate' clothing on other women. This is just sick, and is akin to the police officer that said women need to dress more appropriately, or else they'll be raped.
dispatch3d Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Ok other examples: Several “interesting” outfits she wore when leaving to for a date or a party. Frequently she asks, how do I look? as she is leaving. Once, she went to a concert wearing jean shorts and a small tube top. At the concert she decided to crowd surf, with obvious results (I was not at the concert). We organized a ping pong tournament – mostly an excuse to drink – and she wore a very loose tank top that constantly moved out of place as she played, revealing quite a view. Sorry, I had really no specific question. It is just something that is strange to me and I wanted to see what others had to say – and apparently most people think that is not all that unusual. This sounds pretty serious. I have friends like this as well. Could you go into more detail on the two examples, and give a few more? I think I see where this is heading, and it isn't good.
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