momto3boys Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I told my soon to be ex-husband that id like to have sex one more time before i have our baby since im due in 5 or 6 weeks and i wont be able to do anything for a while, i'll have to heal and ill have my hands full. Im obviously not going to go anywhere else for sex. Is sex with an ex a bad idea? I dont feel like ill get attached, im sort of just over our relationship because of how horrible he has treated me and to be honest he still isnt that great to me. so i know for me itd be about sex and that is it. I dont think he'd regain feelings either, we had sex before i moved back home and he did not have any feelings. So is sex with your ex a bad idea?
arbrne_vet Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 So is sex with your ex a bad idea? my opinion... YES! what will become of it, but more pain.
lonelynyc Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 If you have feelings for your ex, which you clearly do, it's a horrible idea. It won't feel the same, because they won't have the same passion for you that you remember and miss. It will be like trying to clap with one hand, a really unfeasible thing. Having sex with my ex set me back big time. It was just so confusing.
january2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Yes, it is. However, you slice it. I don't see it ever being a viable option to get it from an ex, especially an ex who treated you badly. Rather than release, the likely outcome is that you will hate yourself for stooping so low. You are having a baby, why not focus on preparing for that?
bigmomma1974 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 i think this depends on the situation. I dont think sex with an ex is a bad ideal. Howevver sex with your ex may be since he treated you like crap. However the overall decison is yours. I think its ok to have a sex buddy and its ok not to have feelings for one, but being pregnant you can get very moody and feelings can arise. Do whats best for you!
Author momto3boys Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 i think im just lonely! It sucks! I really shouldnt wanna have sex with him since he treats me like dirt, but i guess i am just wanting the closeness while pregnant like most women get when theyre pregnant. i dont get that. I hate being so lonely!
carhill Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 If you weren't pregnant, would you have sex with him? What need or desire are you filling with sex? Oh, OK, loneliness. Any other way to fill that need/desire?
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