Shaun-Dro Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 This is utterly ridiculous but here's what happened yesterday. I was out a little while on an errand before meeting up with some friends of mine. This sexy young woman in her twenties I'm figuring caught my eye on the strip outside the Chinese restaurant, so I made a move. We talked for a few minutes and there been no doubt she was feeling me, with the hair-tossing, prolonged eye contact, wanting to know about my tattoos, etc. But when I asked how old she was, she gave me this taken-back look, and responded, "You're not supposed to ask our age, because that's too much information." What the hell is she talking about? Anyway, the conversation pretty much died down after that, and she added before leaving that I should never do that again because it will always cost me points with them. I'd told her that making that remark has already cost her a shot with me! But regardless of that loose end, when I called my mother up about it just to get her take, she fully agreed that men are never supposed to ask any woman they're interested in for their age? I don't get that. How are men supposed to know if a woman is even legal if he doesn't find out, especially in cases where I'm attracted to younger women? I have to be sure they're legal, correct? Ladies, if this is an art you're practicing with guys, you'll never master it.
bigmomma1974 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 to some women its an unhidden law, Havent you ever heard it isnt polite to ask a lady her age? Why women freak over that is beyond me. I am 37 and it doesnt bother me if im asked my age, it never did. Maybe next time you can ask them if they are over the age of 18 because you want to make sure your not tredding iin hot water. idk its crazy if you ask me. You need to be safe especially if you find younger women attracted. I was out with my 17 yr old one time and it was when she was 15, some guy was like damn shes hot, I said damn shes my daughter and only 15, he said omg maam im so sorry she looks much older then 15. Which today for some reason teens look older then what they are. I myself say it is safer to ask, Better safe then sorry. Good luck to you!
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 If you just met someone, yes, it's rude to ask their age. It's also rude to ask people you barely know how tall they are, how much they weight and how much money they may make. Just because you want to know something, doesn't give you the right to ask it.
ffw Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hold up, I'm going to get my popcorn. Thats funny. Lol.....
january2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 In traditional (Western) etiquette it is rude to ask a woman her age. Another woman 'might' get away with it but not a man. However, individual differences do come into play and some women won't be offended if you ask them the same question. Since she reacted very badly to your question, I'd take it that she is more sensitive about these types of questions. If you are quite an open person who likes to ask a lot of questions, regardless of how well you know that person, then I suggest that it hints at an incompatibility between your personalities.
refurb Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 You met a crazy, congrats. Once a woman hits her 30s, it's not a good question to ask, but a woman in their 20s? I ask girls that all the time and none of them care. RF
AHardDaysNight Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Yeah, this has been around since the dawn of time, and probably never will change.
Easyguy14 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 If you just met someone, yes, it's rude to ask their age. It's also rude to ask people you barely know how tall they are, how much they weight and how much money they may make. Just because you want to know something, doesn't give you the right to ask it. how is somebody supposed to get to know another person without asking questions? just because you don't like getting asked questions shouldn't apply to other women, generally speaking.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 how is somebody supposed to get to know another person without asking questions? just because you don't like getting asked questions shouldn't apply to other women, generally speaking Well you tell me, when is the right time to ask a man how much money he makes? You know..in an attempt to get to know him. And at what point do you as a man ask a woman her breast size? You know..to get to know her. Are questions about weight, height, breast size or income all that different from each other? Do these things really help you get to know someone? Certain questions are just strange to ask. Especially when you first meet someone. Just bcause you want to ask something doesn't mean you have the right to. Before online dating profiles, people just went out with people they liked and eventually found out the information they were seeking.
forrest Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Well you tell me, when is the right time to ask a man how much money he makes? You know..in an attempt to get to know him. And at what point do you as a man ask a woman her breast size? You know..to get to know her. Are questions about weight, height, breast size or income all that different from each other? Do these things really help you get to know someone? Certain questions are just strange to ask. Especially when you first meet someone. Just bcause you want to ask something doesn't mean you have the right to. Before online dating profiles, people just went out with people they liked and eventually found out the information they were seeking. Asking those questions doesn't get you in trouble with the law. You don't want to ask a 16 year old out on a date because she looks 21/22 and then find this info out much later. Waste of both your time and hers.
FitChick Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 (edited) Well you tell me, when is the right time to ask a man how much money he makes? You know..in an attempt to get to know him. And at what point do you as a man ask a woman her breast size? You know..to get to know her. Are questions about weight, height, breast size or income all that different from each other? Do these things really help you get to know someone? Before online dating profiles, people just went out with people they liked and eventually found out the information they were seeking. A woman's age is only relevant if she might not be legal or if the man wants her to have his children. Irrelevant otherwise. More relevant to some women would be a man's penis size, so because she wants to know, it must be okay, according to the OP. These days how much money a man makes is important since so many don't have jobs. You don't want to get involved with a man who might ruin your credit rating. Edited October 2, 2011 by FitChick
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Asking those questions doesn't get you in trouble with the law. You don't want to ask a 16 year old out on a date because she looks 21/22 and then find this info out much later. Waste of both your time and hers. I'm not sure where a 20 something man would even meet a high schooler unless he was hanging out in places where high schoolers hang out. I also never saw a 16 year old that looked 21/22. While I do think 16 year olds try to look older, usually their bodies and faces are very different from that of a 21 year old.
oaks Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I remember being told, as a child, that it's rude to ask a lady her age. I took it as a universal rule along with "you'll be grounded for a month if you kick a ball through a window".
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I've always felt it was poor manners to ask a woman her age.. but then again don't you really need to know a woman's age as part of being matched up ?? If you are say 35 and want to date someone who wants to have kids wouldn't it suck if the woman you are dating was really 45 ? What you did OP was just a little tacky being that you just met her and off course she called you on it.. You could have asked her her age later on rather than right off the bat..
Author Shaun-Dro Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 Asking those questions doesn't get you in trouble with the law. You don't want to ask a 16 year old out on a date because she looks 21/22 and then find this info out much later. Waste of both your time and hers. This here is exactly what I was referring to, thank you. Just because this snot-nose chick decided to give me attitude on information that was very pivotal to me in the developing process of getting to know her, won't stop me on my future quests. I will continue to seek the unattainable, pass go, and never to land behind those rusty bars on my way to collecting.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I, as a rule, don't tell women's ages. Even if I know it, I'll just be like, "ah...well she's [insert random percentage here.]" Men don't get the same reaction. In fact, if you're older than the girl (not too old, but old enough), it can peak her interest in you. I've seen it happen before, girls who are in their early 20's going out with mid 30 guys, or late 20 guys going out with 19 year old's. It can be problematic, though, because (as someone said), someone young can look old and someone old can look young. Some people assume I'm still in high school, and some correctly guess my age, or at least a ballpark number. But I've seen too many cases where a vindictive teenage high school girl will trick an older man into sleeping with her, and then cry rape. Doesn't matter if it was consensual, he's still going to jail!
D-Lish Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 You met a crazy, congrats. Once a woman hits her 30s, it's not a good question to ask, but a woman in their 20s? I ask girls that all the time and none of them care. RF I'm just over 40 and I could care less if a man asks my age.
Cypress25 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Women in their 20's generally don't mind this question. From her reaction, I'm guessing she was older than you thought. In the future, you might want to word it a little differently, like "How old are you, if you don't mind my asking?" If you're just trying to make sure she's legal, you could ask where she went to college or what she does for a living. (Even if she never went to college, if she's 18+ she would explain what she did instead.)
xxoo Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I'm not sure where a 20 something man would even meet a high schooler unless he was hanging out in places where high schoolers hang out. I also never saw a 16 year old that looked 21/22. While I do think 16 year olds try to look older, usually their bodies and faces are very different from that of a 21 year old. Teens don't always keep to "teen places".....the beach, shopping centers, festivals, concerts...these are all places where teens mix with adults. And I have seen 16 year olds that look like adults. Boys and girls. It can be shocking! OP, if you are unsure if a girl is over 18, please continue to ask. Don't worry about losing points. Worry about going to jail.
TooAccepting32 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 (edited) hee hee... I would agree with cypress... she's probably in her 30s. She probably enjoyed the attention from you and she may have felt that you knowing her real age might put a stop to that right then. I say, if she looked that young, you couldn't go wrong with asking her if she's over 18 and leaving it at that. If she's in her 30s she'd be flattered, and even if 30s is too old for a relationship for you, it might still be fun for both of you to continue to flirt and enjoy your attraction for one another. Realistically I don't think she'll expect much from you in the long run anyway if she's 34 and you're 25... what could she reasonably expect from you? So don't worry, you wouldn't be on the hook. You could just enjoy flirting with the hot girl for what it is. Edited October 3, 2011 by TooAccepting32
forrest Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I'm not sure where a 20 something man would even meet a high schooler unless he was hanging out in places where high schoolers hang out. I also never saw a 16 year old that looked 21/22. While I do think 16 year olds try to look older, usually their bodies and faces are very different from that of a 21 year old. They hang out in all the usual places that 18+ people hang out in (except bars for obvious reasons). That includes movie theaters, restaurants, beaches, you name it. I have, met one the other day that carried herself well and in a mature manner. She worked at a fancy restaurant and I assumed she was at least 18, if not 20. Turns out she was 16...awkward but oh well. I've also met many people (especially Asian women and men) that look at least 5 to 10 years younger than they really are.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 (edited) I'm sorry but a mid 20s men or woman macking on high schoolers is creepy to me. While some places have more teens then others, hanging out with said teens is just strange. They act a certain way that 21 year old women don't. Especially if they are with a group with their peers, they aren't all going to look 21, if they even look that. They would be more easy to distinguish. While I agree that high schoolers can look more mature, I've never seen one look so mature that they could be mistaken for 21. Edited October 3, 2011 by Disenchantedly Yours
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