californiasurf Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 So my boyfriend broke up with me 4 days before our 10 month, which was in the last week of August. I tried talking to him once about a week after we broke up but he didn't answer. Since then, I haven't talked to him at all. I miss him so much and I'm still very much in love with him, but he started to date someone else. I can't stop crying and I just want him back more than anything. The fact that our one year anniversary is two days before my birthday doesn't help either. My birthday is in a month and it's going to be hell because of that. Do you think that there is any chance that I can get him back from the girl he's dating now? And how can I get him to talk to me?
Aido Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hi there! I feel 4 u so much of course dars a chance! Keep 2 the non-contact rule an u have a great chance the gift u can give ur x is ur silence the gift of missing you! I'm here if u need a shoulder poor pet !
HollyHoliday Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 If he is dating someone else already and hasn't returned your phone calls, it is likely that he has moved on from the relationship. If he is able to be with you for so long and then go to dating someone else so quickly, it is likely that he isn't yet capable of a meaningful relationship. I'm sorry, it is hard but it will get easier.
mike588 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 So my boyfriend broke up with me 4 days before our 10 month, which was in the last week of August. I tried talking to him once about a week after we broke up but he didn't answer. Since then, I haven't talked to him at all. I miss him so much and I'm still very much in love with him, but he started to date someone else. I can't stop crying and I just want him back more than anything. The fact that our one year anniversary is two days before my birthday doesn't help either. My birthday is in a month and it's going to be hell because of that. Do you think that there is any chance that I can get him back from the girl he's dating now? And how can I get him to talk to me? I know your pain. My now ex. g/f and I made up to 1 day before our 10th month also. Sounds like he's moved on. I know you want him back and love him and the best chance of you getting him back is No Contact,,, none!! zero! I know it's extremely difficult to do that but you must!! If you keep contacting him, bugging him, pleading, crying,begging you are only pushing him further away and you will look pathetic!! Also by going No Contact he may after some time start to miss you and wondering what your doing, if you are dating etc. You'll be mysterious. I'm sure you told him what you want from the relationship, how you feel so now just leave it at that. The ball is in his corner now. He knows how you feel, what you want and if the relationship he is in now doesn't work maybe he will come back. If you keep harassing him he most likely won't. Start No Contact now! and take care of yourself. You are not alone!
lonelynyc Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Also by going No Contact he may after some time start to miss you and wondering what your doing, if you are dating etc. You'll be mysterious. mike588 gave good advice up to about here. Most of the time when you've been NC for a significant chunk of time and your ex pops back into your life it's because they're lonely and they want the comfort of someone familiar or something else didn't work out for them. You don't want this type of attention because it will only lead to more heartbreak. You will not be the exception (we all think we will be). There is no future with the ex after that break in NC. I didn't understand it fully until I literally broke down yesterday. NC is not about sparking your ex's interest again. They're in the wind at this point. It's about moving on, rebuilding your life and your self-respect.
samphs Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Look I hate to say this but the girl is probably a rebound, I haven't been able to keep NC from my ex for more than 5 days and that was hard too... I am the dumpee and I am seeing someone else even though I just broke up (I know bad idea) it's never meaningful they just don't want to be alone. I say work on yourself (preferably don't get a rebound as I did). I loved my ex so much, moved for him was supportive and when I was going through a rough time he broke up with me.... I hear you.... SUCKS
mike588 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hi there! I feel 4 u so much of course dars a chance! Keep 2 the non-contact rule an u have a great chance the gift u can give ur x is ur silence the gift of missing you! I'm here if u need a shoulder poor pet ! As far as giving your ex. the gift of missing you by following N.C.,,, well if you were a rebound person and they drop you like a hot potato to go back to their ex.,,,, then how could he/she miss you when they did'nt care to begin with?
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