Has the weak economy made people more accepting during the dating process in 2011?

[PhillyDude]

I remember years ago like i 2004 when I didn't have my own place or a car or a job I would be judged instantly and the women would lose interest in getting to know me. Now I don't have a problem saying what I don't have because everyone knows that the job market is weak, unemployment is high, and the economy is poor. So it seems like most women are not as judgmental when you say you don't drive or don't have a job because everyone knows somebody affected in this economy.

 

 

Do anyone notice people being more accepting of what you are lacking in 2011 or is this just happening in Philadelphia?

[carhill]

I haven't yet seen that. I know for a fact in your locale there are definitely some women whose 'standards' haven't slipped at all.

 

I also have been hearing from my best friend that my exW's BF has been struggling a bit lately, as a lot of us have where I live, and she's starting to complain about him like she did about me. One more anecdote for the mixer

[PhillyDude]

I haven't yet seen that. I know for a fact in your locale there are definitely some women whose 'standards' haven't slipped at all.

 

I also have been hearing from my best friend that my exW's BF has been struggling a bit lately, as a lot of us have where I live, and she's starting to complain about him like she did about me. One more anecdote for the mixer

 

The one big difference I have noticed is no one askes me-"why don't you drive" because either they are struggling to maintain their car or they know someone who lost or gave up their car to make ends meet. The only thing that was questioned was-"do you have a license" which is fine.

[carhill]

If the car is a 'luxury' and not a 'necessity', then it's possible that some people are more accepting of letting such a luxury go or overlooking its absence. I know Philly has pretty good mass transit, even out into the burbs. It's definitely possible to live without a car. Me, miles from the nearest town, completely impossible. Even the farm animals need wheels. I still have three, not that any of them are new and shiny. They're transportation. Women have historically had their standards about what 'transportation' is. I know my exW did, for sure. My cat, OTOH, has no preference about which vehicle his carrier is placed into. It's all the same to him. That's instructive

 

Lastly, just because they don't ask 'why' or make obvious negative comments, refrain from believing that they aren't judging you. That's impossible IMO. Watch *actions* for their truth.

[phineas]

The way I look at it, a woman either wants to snuggle up to a man or an ATM machine.

 

In today's world an ATM machine doesn't have to settle for just one customer because there are many people looking to use it.

 

And it knows it. Hence the fee's.

 

 

and carhill, the ex-wife recently for some reason was fishing for information on my dating status & let "slip" that I probably have more sex than her.

 

I told her if she wants, i'll take her upstairs but it has to be quick because I gotta shower to meet my date in an hr.

 

She didn't take me up on the offer and hasn't brought it up since.

 

But, she isn't happy either & i've heard she is starting to complain about the guy she monkey-branched to the same way she complained about me.

 

It's funny & sad at the same time.

[carhill]

The thought of even mentioning 'sex' and 'exW' in the same sentence makes me shudder.....

 

I think, if anything, even in this weak economy, one which I sacrificed a lot to get divorced in, the process has made me less accepting, if anything. Perhaps that's why I haven't dated much

[phineas]

The thought of even mentioning 'sex' and 'exW' in the same sentence makes me shudder.....

 

I think, if anything, even in this weak economy, one which I sacrificed a lot to get divorced in, the process has made me less accepting, if anything. Perhaps that's why I haven't dated much

 

I was just useing my anti-emotional tampon skills to diffuse the situation in a hurry.

 

I really don't know if I would of gone through with it if she offered.

I lived VERY unhealthily with her & while i've adopted a better lifestyle & got into shape she has totally let herself go.

 

I'm just not all that attracted to her.