mike588 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 (edited) Hello all: I recieved an interesting call this am. My ex. g/f sister called me this morning just wanting to say hi and to see how I was doing. We were close. I really did'nt know what to say because it really took me by surprise so I kept it very short and DID NOT ask any questions (how are they doing etc.) about my ex. and her new love,, (her previous ex.b/f ) I told her the truth,, that I was doing good, joined a gym, had a few casual dates,, some other small talk and that was it. Now I so regret telling her the casual dating thing. At the end of our very short talk I did tell her that the next time she sees my ex tell her to keep doing whats she been doing by STAYING OUT OF MY LIFE!! and I'm pissed at her to the point of HATING HER!! I know she will tell her. Half of me feels good about the call the other half makes me feel like it is a setback. I wonder if my ex is "fishing" and if there is trouble in paradise? Hope this was just a good will call. Anyone here had a similar call/ experience?? Did I say and do the right thing?? Edited October 2, 2011 by mike588
smudge21 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Ha, my ex's sister did some fishing for info once, but I just ignored it, but the things she said made it clear the ex cared more than she let on. Yeah, I definitely think she was fishing for info from you - probably even following on from a girls night in. You can picture them together, coming up with an attack plan. I think you responded well, but the anger you showed is a little immature in my opinion. It shows emotion and says you are still hurt by her (fair enough) but by showing that, it can feed someones ego to know it. That said, you responded from the heart and you shouldn't really beat yourself up over it. If she rings again, just ignore it. You've been polite once, but no need to be the same way again. You've moved on and are doing well so don't let this set you back. If anything, just go back to what I first said and understand that your ex was clearly thinking of you which led to this contact. Sounds to me like she's the one with the set back.
Author mike588 Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 (edited) Yea the anger thing was wrong but in her last email,,, (my exs so sorry email to me,) I responded and sorta let her off the guilt hook by saying ,, I'll miss taking you out, I care for you too,(how stupid) because at that time I still wanted her back. That was my/our last contact,, 6 weeks ago. I don't want her back now !!! No friggin way!!! Edited October 2, 2011 by mike588
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