TheDovic Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 No!!! I believe it takes skill and taking chances in this life to get what we want. My brother's fiancee left him 4 years ago and he hoped she would come back so he sat on his ass doing nothing. Now she is married and he has stopped going out and seems destined for a life alone! Whether I end up with my ex or someone else I will take chances because sitting on my ass will get me nowhere! Furthermore, many people on this site chase their ex's, beg them and act needy etc... They believe this relationship is meant to be, but all they achieve is chasing their ex away!!!
aerogurl87 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I didn't believe in fate till I met my ex. Now I believe if two people are meant to be together, no situation, distance, or trial will be able to keep them apart.
Author ffw Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 Ah, but doing nothing can still be an action, depending on the sitch. When balancing on a tightrope several feet in the air, it's very important not to act, not to move. This is similar to the dumpee wanting to make a move on the ex, wanting to persuade them, but choosing not to act on it for their own sake. It's knowing the right time when to act and when not to act that can be tricky. Think about it. When your ex dumps you and you continue on with your life without conatcting them, even if you want to, are you truly doing nothing? No. You're moving on, gaining back your dignity, independence, etc. So that is an action. Action through inaction. You're going with the flow as best as you can, and if the 'flow' brings you and that person back together, then that's that. I don't think that's really the same as 'if it's meant to be it will be' though. To me that still says no effort is really being made with life in general. Hi Thieves, I read some of your previous posts also. You have a different point of view on topics. I am must say I am impress with your thinking & reasoning on subjects. Keep it up. Cheers....
Rorschach64 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I do not believe in that saying because it gives people a lame ass excuse to do whatever they wish and not be responsible for their actions. Further more, with this mentality it sums up to a higher power and so forth, which means there would be some justice out there when there isn't. There is only variables, chances, and cause & effect, etc. etc.
M2155 Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 I believe it. But it's just life in general. From the getting back with your ex perspective, as much as you dump and hate etc... if years later it was meant to be yes you'll work your way back into each other's hearts. Only thing is, it's usually NOT meant to be. I'm waiting on the "everything happens for a reason" because everyone tells me somehow this experience is making me stronger and wiser and making room for something better. Holding my breath now.... 1
LelouchIsZero Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Destiny plays a huge role. Believe me. Example: I had a psychic reading a month ago after splitting with my ex. I was told in three weeks I would meet someone who I like a lot. Yeah right I thought, I'm not over this girl yet she just left me. Well, three weeks on I met someone and I like her a lot. Also said my ex will contact me early October, guess what, she did today. Long story short, if a psychic can see something that hasn't happened then clearly something's planned out in advance. Oh and also mentioned I would get fined lol. Well, I got fined some money for being late updating my driving licence photo. Quite annoying! I don't believe "If its meant to be, it will be", nor do I believe in psychics. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uh7nhQ9h3Zw http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DGjiOaR9ZtA
Eddie Edirol Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Hello everyone, I am not sure whether this topic has been discussed before. I want to ask you do you believe in "if its meant to be, it will be" especially in the case of break ups & reuniting. Since in this kind of situations, things won't be in our hands or atleast in the dumpees hand. That kind of belief is for the ignorant. Its usually when the dumpee is in the dark about the breakup, or has his/her blinders on. Also that belief is when the dumpee is holding out for hope and really cant think of much else when they are in withdrawal. Theres always a reason for the breakup, that the dumper probably didnt say. But the real truth is, only a very small percentage of reconciliations last. People usually get dumped because of very good reasons, that that relationship was not supposed to work out in the dumpers mind. So its not a case of meant to be, its a case of full compatibility, and work from both sides.
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