ffw Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hello everyone, I am not sure whether this topic has been discussed before. I want to ask you do you believe in "if its meant to be, it will be" especially in the case of break ups & reuniting. Since in this kind of situations, things won't be in our hands or atleast in the dumpees hand.
ken_25 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Not really, but I'm a skeptic. I'm not sold that luck or karma exist either.
Lucio Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 yea i believe so. know personally of 2 cases whereby ppl go full circle and marry/return to the person they dumped years back. " If chance will have me king, why, chance may crown me Without my stir." - macbeth
ScienceGal Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I don't know if I believe it, but I entertain the idea of it. This is only because there is absolutely nothing that I can do about my separation. He left me and I hate feeling powerless and alone, so I just think that I am leaving it to fate. Thinking there is no hope just makes me sad. Accepting it in any way that I can and just trying moving on.
jenjen83 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I don't know if I believe it, but I entertain the idea of it. This is only because there is absolutely nothing that I can do about my separation. He left me and I hate feeling powerless and alone, so I just think that I am leaving it to fate. Thinking there is no hope just makes me sad. Accepting it in any way that I can and just trying moving on. This sums it up perfectly for me.
StellaA Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I think you have to belive that things happen for a reason......you appreciate the good things when they happen and I guess if you don't get tested sometimes you don't know how to appreciate the good!!! eventually we all look back at diff things that hace happened to us, at the time we feel so low but we look back and think we wouldn't have done other things had the situation not changed. Who knows what the future holds, it is scary but you will look back when you are in a good place and think as bad as it was it has made me who I am now, you might find if you get back with your ex in time it is better than the first time and you know it will be for keeps.......but......you may find someone even better and have learnt from the past to help you have a great future! If it is meant to be, it will be
immitable Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 yep, you only need to forget about time though...
lonelynyc Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I think it happens, but it's not something to count on. That's like going to Vegas and seeing someone dominate craps and thinking you'll share that luck. As an expression it just sounds too hopeful. Typically, when someone says they don't want to be with you the romantic feelings are dead and they won't return. Sure, they'll typically turn to you for comfort after that but it will because you're familiar, not because they love you romantically anymore. There are people who don't get on with their lives for years because they hold out hope that if things are meant to be they'll be. Meanwhile the other person moves on permanently. Let yourself heal and love someone new. Part of the healing process I am just starting to realize myself is reducing your thoughts of the other person until they're just a part of your history--not the present.
PositiveNegative Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Well, both of my exes said this to me. Both times I firmly believe they said that to make themselves feel better about the break up. Do I believe it? I don't know. I want to. As my break up was recent I am still stuck with some hope even though she is already dating another guy. I think for us to ever be together in the future the timing must be absolutely perfect. Also, I think a lot of the answer lies in the break up. How it happens and such. At the end of the day though, stranger things have happened. So, yes, anything is possible.
Coupedriver Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I talked about this with my counselor one day and she told me thats "If its meant to be" is nothing more then an excuse some dumpers use.She asked me "If you were meant to be a pianist,why cant you play a piano when your born.?" She told me this.."Like everything in life,you have to WORK at it..Want more money.? Work to get a better job or a raise..Want a new car.? Work and save money.Want to save a relationship..? WORK at it...!!!!!! Want to get OVER your Ex..WORK at it..!!!!!! "
MIK1000 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I don't believe in it in the sense that everything happens for a reason or it's down to fate but if you think of it more logically then it actually does make some sense. If the love is true/deep enough to endure a life time of partership and commitment then the two people will find a way to be togeather. Wether it means one partner coming back to the other person after a break up and realising how much they loved/missed them or a couple putting a lot of work in to overcome big obsticles in the relationship because that is how deep their love is.
snug.bunny Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Yes. Similar to "everything happens for a reason". For instance, I woke up this morning, there was a reason I did. I ate some food, there was a reason. People come into your life, then leave. Some stay or you stay. Some people you are friends with for a lifetime, other times not. There are all reasons for that too. "If it's meant to be, it will be". Sure. Either the stars aligned properly or you've both made it so. So on and so forth...
JohnP82 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 As weird as it sounds to say. I believe in it for other people. I would never re-date and ex. Truthfully because the next girl has always been better for me.
jcrod311 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I don't believe in it at all. It sounds partly like fate which I also don't believe in. I would love it if the notion were true though. I think it may happen in the sense that you two already have history and should your paths cross in the future, it's easier to re-kindle something than it would be to start over with a stranger.
harrisdo09 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 all things are not left to fate. you have to do something before God can bless it. you dont expect God bless you when you are not doing anything.
Thieves Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Hello everyone, I am not sure whether this topic has been discussed before. I want to ask you do you believe in "if its meant to be, it will be" especially in the case of break ups & reuniting. Since in this kind of situations, things won't be in our hands or atleast in the dumpees hand. Hm... Tough one. I think for me, it depends on the week. Literally. I think it can be true - to an extent. It's kind of like lifting a very heavy weight by yourself. The weight can be moved, but you have to make the effort to actually pick it up first in order for it to be moved. You can't just stand by, staring at it and hoping it'll pick itself up. In other words, it could be meant to be, but you do have to put in some effort. If you're sitting at the bus station waiting for the bus, but hesitate to take a chance and get on each time it comes by... well, nothing's really ever gonna happen. 1
Author ffw Posted October 3, 2011 Author Posted October 3, 2011 all things are not left to fate. you have to do something before God can bless it. you dont expect God bless you when you are not doing anything. Hm... Tough one. I think for me, it depends on the week. Literally. I think it can be true - to an extent. It's kind of like lifting a very heavy weight by yourself. The weight can be moved, but you have to make the effort to actually pick it up first in order for it to be moved. You can't just stand by, staring at it and hoping it'll pick itself up. In other words, it could be meant to be, but you do have to put in some effort. If you're sitting at the bus station waiting for the bus, but hesitate to take a chance and get on each time it comes by... well, nothing's really ever gonna happen. I know what you mean. But in some cases, its not in our hands. For example, as a dumpee if you try to persuade the dumper, you could end up chasing the dumper away. In such kind of case, its better to do nothing & if its meant to be it will be.
Thieves Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 I know what you mean. But in some cases, its not in our hands. For example, as a dumpee if you try to persuade the dumper, you could end up chasing the dumper away. In such kind of case, its better to do nothing & if its meant to be it will be. Ah, but doing nothing can still be an action, depending on the sitch. When balancing on a tightrope several feet in the air, it's very important not to act, not to move. This is similar to the dumpee wanting to make a move on the ex, wanting to persuade them, but choosing not to act on it for their own sake. It's knowing the right time when to act and when not to act that can be tricky. Think about it. When your ex dumps you and you continue on with your life without conatcting them, even if you want to, are you truly doing nothing? No. You're moving on, gaining back your dignity, independence, etc. So that is an action. Action through inaction. You're going with the flow as best as you can, and if the 'flow' brings you and that person back together, then that's that. I don't think that's really the same as 'if it's meant to be it will be' though. To me that still says no effort is really being made with life in general.
oldguy Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Hello everyone, I am not sure whether this topic has been discussed before. I want to ask you do you believe in "if its meant to be, it will be" especially in the case of break ups & reuniting. Since in this kind of situations, things won't be in our hands or atleast in the dumpees hand. That & the subject of 'soul mates' I think we would like to believe these fates being managed by some superior force but I have to wonder. In the case of soul mates, I'm afraid I don't wholeheartedly subscribe to that any longer. I wish I did.
HappyFlower Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Hello everyone, I am not sure whether this topic has been discussed before. I want to ask you do you believe in "if its meant to be, it will be" especially in the case of break ups & reuniting. Since in this kind of situations, things won't be in our hands or atleast in the dumpees hand. I think so, yes Myself and the ex split a month ago. I'm not going to sit around am wait for what's ment to be to happen (I'm happy at the moment and I've been on a couple of dates). I think it's more about getting on with life, that perhaps now just wasn't the right time to be together for a while. I think we'll be together again, perhaps not for 6 months, or 10 years, but I think it'll happen one day. I'm not pushing for it, he knows I still love him, I know he still loves me and thats enough. I'm not basing my life on 'we WILL be together' and working towards that, I am simply recognising that that time isn't now. Some would see it as nieve maybe, but I find it comforting. I don't believe in cutting people right out of my life - we're in NC right now, but that just means the door is closed, it's not locked. And there's a little window that we wave through from time to time 1
Bsham Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Destiny plays a huge role. Believe me. Example: I had a psychic reading a month ago after splitting with my ex. I was told in three weeks I would meet someone who I like a lot. Yeah right I thought, I'm not over this girl yet she just left me. Well, three weeks on I met someone and I like her a lot. Also said my ex will contact me early October, guess what, she did today. Long story short, if a psychic can see something that hasn't happened then clearly something's planned out in advance. Oh and also mentioned I would get fined lol. Well, I got fined some money for being late updating my driving licence photo. Quite annoying!
redblack66 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Destiny plays a huge role. Believe me. Example: I had a psychic reading a month ago after splitting with my ex. I was told in three weeks I would meet someone who I like a lot. Yeah right I thought, I'm not over this girl yet she just left me. Well, three weeks on I met someone and I like her a lot. Also said my ex will contact me early October, guess what, she did today. Long story short, if a psychic can see something that hasn't happened then clearly something's planned out in advance. Oh and also mentioned I would get fined lol. Well, I got fined some money for being late updating my driving licence photo. Quite annoying! Well, I as told by more than one psychic that she is coming back. I feel the same, but I am not holding my breadth.
Coupedriver Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 You said she contacted you...what did she say..?
jfLip Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Bsham & redblack66, are you the types to believe in psychics? Or were you just giving it a shot?
redblack66 Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Bsham & redblack66, are you the types to believe in psychics? Or were you just giving it a shot? I do believe. Mine has been pretty accurate in the last four years.
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