Kiraskrazy180 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Wouldn't you be confused if an ex says that they love you, hugs, kisses, tries to touch you and holds your hand? Well my ex of 2 and a half years did this exact thing to me. We haven't seen eachother for 3 weeks and when he saw me he kept on doing the typical. Then kept reminding me that I shouldn't get confused, he wasn't "feeling" us anymore, but he misses the memories and thats why he continues to hug, kiss and hold my hand. It was like a knife cutting me in the back everytime he told me those words, because little does he know, I'm still madly in love with him. He's still my everything and I just can't stop crying my eyes out. He told me before he took me home that day, that we cannot be together even if I wanted. He's in lust with another girl now and I told him how I cannot handle the fact that he has moved on so quickly. It's really killing me. I want so badly to have him back, for him to apologize and realize that I really love him, but its already too late because he has falling "out of love" with me too soon, and I don't think he'll ever feel that romantic about our relationship anymore. He mentioned if we could be friends because he claims I'm a good person and going somewhere in life. At the end of our conversation, he told me he loved me and that I don't deserve him...I was confused, one minute he love me, next minute he doesn't.
Author Kiraskrazy180 Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 Has anyone gone through the same?
BLuvv Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Yes, my ex even when we were together gave me such mixed signals- I had told him before, I never know where I stand with him. My ex had an issue with commitment and told me so. I eventually broke up with him (he had dumped me twice- so we were off and on quite a bit)- then this past year of being broken up we still slept together and went to dinner, movies, etc. I feel like guys like that just don't want to be tied down and want to keep their options open, they like having you around because it makes them feel good, but they don't take the time to really worry about your feelings. I've been in a world of hurt going up and down and still wishing my ex would realize how much I care about him- but it never happened. I finally have gone no contact (day 6) and I see a light at the end of the tunnel. The problem is they like you to be an option, so they're nice enough to keep you around, but never really make any commitment- so you're left dangling and hoping and waiting and never really satisfied. I've cried so many tears and wasted so much time. The only thing to do is walk away and not let them do that to you. Take your power back and stand up for yourself, because you deserve so much better. It's hard and I know how crappy it feels. You can read my posts (I've changed my perspective a lot in a short time, just by making a true decision that I'm done with this). The people here are really great to support you and you should reach out to people in your life that really care about you and will be there for you. Just take it a day at a time, it's hardest at first because you are used to seeing them, talking to them, etc. It takes time to let your mind get used to the idea and for your heart to heal. Ups and downs are normal and don't be hard on yourself for that. It's okay and if your feeling upset, come here and vent or find a friend to talk to. Little actions are best, like the day after my breakup I still remember how shattered I felt (full of regret)- the only thing that got me out of bed was the fact that I had to take care of my dog. So I did that and went from there and managed to make it to work and so on and so forth. Unfortunately, I went back to my ex over and over again and caused myself more pain- I think my story definitely serves as a cautionary tale. I wish I would've moved on a long time ago- but then again, better late than never. And maybe my story can help someone else from making the same mistake. Best of luck to you and just remember you do deserve better! B
Author Kiraskrazy180 Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 Yes, my ex even when we were together gave me such mixed signals- I had told him before, I never know where I stand with him. My ex had an issue with commitment and told me so. I eventually broke up with him (he had dumped me twice- so we were off and on quite a bit)- then this past year of being broken up we still slept together and went to dinner, movies, etc. I feel like guys like that just don't want to be tied down and want to keep their options open, they like having you around because it makes them feel good, but they don't take the time to really worry about your feelings. I've been in a world of hurt going up and down and still wishing my ex would realize how much I care about him- but it never happened. I finally have gone no contact (day 6) and I see a light at the end of the tunnel. The problem is they like you to be an option, so they're nice enough to keep you around, but never really make any commitment- so you're left dangling and hoping and waiting and never really satisfied. I've cried so many tears and wasted so much time. The only thing to do is walk away and not let them do that to you. Take your power back and stand up for yourself, because you deserve so much better. It's hard and I know how crappy it feels. You can read my posts (I've changed my perspective a lot in a short time, just by making a true decision that I'm done with this). The people here are really great to support you and you should reach out to people in your life that really care about you and will be there for you. Just take it a day at a time, it's hardest at first because you are used to seeing them, talking to them, etc. It takes time to let your mind get used to the idea and for your heart to heal. Ups and downs are normal and don't be hard on yourself for that. It's okay and if your feeling upset, come here and vent or find a friend to talk to. Little actions are best, like the day after my breakup I still remember how shattered I felt (full of regret)- the only thing that got me out of bed was the fact that I had to take care of my dog. So I did that and went from there and managed to make it to work and so on and so forth. Unfortunately, I went back to my ex over and over again and caused myself more pain- I think my story definitely serves as a cautionary tale. I wish I would've moved on a long time ago- but then again, better late than never. And maybe my story can help someone else from making the same mistake. Best of luck to you and just remember you do deserve better! B Wow that reminds me so much of myself. Its so hard, but some guys are just heart breakers. Maybe we can both speak more and vent out our feelings. Most of my good friends don't really understand the true pain, probably becauase they've never experienced it themselves, but I think we have a lot in common considering we both have had the same thing happen to us. I'm still beyong shattered about this situation and I know getting out of bed is the hard part because I have school and work to worry about. It's tough juggling both and a broken-heart. You can email me @ [email protected]
Recommended Posts